Expressing yourself or complaining?

[Deleted member 12723]

I think talking about it gets the ball rolling on our unresolved issues. It sure has worked that way for me. I was holding something inside. Then I started talking and complaining. It led to the me waking up out of denial and realizing that I was having illusions about the unresolved relationships in my life. It led to emotional flashbacks and getting things sorted out in emdr today. So complaining is legitimate and can open doors. I sure has for me.

 

[99Phoenix99]

So complaining is legitimate and can open doors. I sure has for me.

So... whether it's expressing yourself or just complaining IT IS GOOD. As long as your being honest to your feelings it's good for the mind and soul because you've finally been heard.

I find that to be such a weird concept lol I've always repressed my feelings for one reason or another or... was just flat out was numb to the world. But how can I argue with this?

This thread has been SO UNBELIEVABLY HELPFUL to me.

At this point you've all helped me realize that the important thing is that I need to be heard.

God I feel like such a ding-bat that something so simple has eluded me until now lol

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I do not know about you Phoenix but I was so used to holding everything in and never talking about anything that bothered me because nobody was there. I am just now starting to get the concept to talk about it. So do not feel too bad for just getting it.

This has been helpful to me too. I have appreciated all of the comments on this thread. We do need to be heard. It is so profound the difference it makes to not only be heard but believed, supported, and validated. Hugs.

 

[99Phoenix99]

I think that may be part of it. Never talking about it because nobody was there. I've mentioned it in different threads but at 15 I was hospitalized for years on end after that. I had friends sure but ... at that age you can't really talk to anyone. Their priorities are a tad bit different. Besides I was always at home alone. Or in the hospital. Doctors don't really care what you're feeling, they just want to fix you. And my parents? Ha. A teenager sharing their emotions with parents? Very unlikely. I never really had a therapist in all of that mess. I've become a very good hermit since then lol

I think that's something else this and other threads have taught me. I never really realized how isolated I'd kept myself. And now that I'm starting to socialize again? I didn't realize how detrimental that was to my people skills. How it's made getting close to, and trusting others so difficult.

Thanks for sharing that Gizmo. ((Hugs))