People Faking Ptsd

[Dawoku]

I wonder if spelling can be an issue for people who don't speak English as their native language. No need to be rude. This site used to be very unfriendly about grammar, spelling, etc. and I'm glad they opted to not discriminate against those who aren't perfect.

That said, I am not sure if "fake" is a good choice of words as it suggests intent. I think more often some people don't know enough to recognize the difference between trauma and PTSD and may use.the term incorrectly. I don't know anyone who does...I think most want to stay far away from it.

 

[Evu]

Those people are either self diagnosing or have a doctor who knows nothing about PTSD. Maybe take comfort in knowing the truth, and if anything feel sorry for people who fake PTSD. I mean it is sad if you fake a mental disorder, and it's called malingering. Those people need help, but not because they have PTSD.

 

[ulo]

I wonder if spelling can be an issue for people who don't speak English as their native language. No need to be rude. T...

I agree 100%. I deffinetly shouldn't of used the word fake. Thank you for your reply.

 

[Fujiha]

My trauma comes mainly from neglect - ironically, the times when my life was in danger have been so much easier for me to handle than the spankings were.

The spankings did, in fact, endanger my life, because they forced me into patterns of dissociation.

Veterans have told me "I've never met a civilian who understands before." That, in my view, lends my diagnosis (and I have been professionally diagnosed) some credibility.

But I do find that I need to be careful how I talk about it. Because I'm fine in this place if I talk about my symptoms, or if I share my painfully-earned expertise. But if I talk about what happened? Then I have to defend myself against the 'adult onset' people.

I get that you underwent more stress than you could be expected to handle. As an adult, it takes a lot of stress to break a mind.

Children's minds are easier to break. I couldn't tell the difference between my father and God Himself. When God Himself wants to hurt you, that's pretty damned scary. When the only way to protect yourself against God Himself is to smash your own mind and hide the pieces, well, that's what I did.

And when God Himself works professionally as a lie detector, then that five year old needs to hide the pieces well. After all "I can read you like a fifty-foot billboard" are his own words.

It's really really painful to be stigmatized within a support community because there's a lack of understanding within that community.

I want to say "Thank you for being honest and starting this conversation" and to mean it. Right now, I'm too angry and upset to refrain from mentioning just how painful it is to get a diagnosis, and to learn that (in the absolute best place you ever found for getting help with your condition) you still have to keep secrets if you're going to be treated as someone whose survival is worth protecting.

 

[Lopi]

Please check your spelling.

Please don't be rude! We have people from non-English speaking countries, people on mobile devices typing fast, many here that are dyslexic.

No one likes grammar/spelling police!

 

[Ilale]

Please check your spelling. Ugh.

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[Ofuta]

I think it's important to keep in mind that spankings can range from a single swift swap to the rear (with clothing on) all the way up to getting brutally spanked on a bare bottom with an object so that it causes lasting physical damage.

Perhaps those who have PTSD from spanking are in denial that it was abuse and this is how they minimize the trauma in their minds.

A single swat over clothing, only done occasionally/rarely------I do not believe it crosses the threshold of being a criterion A trauma. More severe spanking that is actually abuse is most definitely a criterion A trauma.

Just my opinion.

 

[Nozafe]

You must be at least this tall to ride this ride.

Beyond that, I DGAF what brought people here. I care what they're doing to make life better. Because I can either learn from them, or kick some knowledge their way. Or both!

And, yes. I think sometimes it is straight up insulting. Especially when people have been told the requirements for PTSD, and they keep on trying to insist why their bullshit reasons are the most painful things on the planet. Um. Hello? PTSD is not a measurement for pain. But beyond that, if you honestly think that crying after a sad movie, or being broken up with, or poop falling on you is the same thing as abused children, being raped, people dying screaming? Thank. God. I have PTSD. Because you are seriously f*cked in the head. And this is coming from someone who knows. What I've got? Isn't a hair on what you've got.

Other times I think it's just sad. People have honestly been led to believe that this is what they have to deal with. When their own problems may be better or worse, but regardless, they've been wasting years of their life. No wonder they're still hurting as bad as they are! To me, that's heartbreaking.

Or it's just pointing out they're in the wrong room. I like those. People honestly trying to figure out what's up with them, and if I can help them not waste their time? Sure. Happy to. :) What I do not understand is the attitude of 'Come on in! The water's fine! Welcome!' Um. PTSD isn't a club. It's a disorder. If someone doesn't have that disorder? The water is not fine. The water will f*ck you up.

But yeah. Sometimes it's straight up insulting. It's just like FFS :banghead:

 

[Obuwa]

You must be at least this tall to ride this ride.

Beyond that, I DGAF what brought people here. I care what they're d...

I have no idea who you are but I hope you don't take offense if I use you water line. I love it!

 

[Ceceji]

Im just going to say from personal experience, that I come here and post about things like my difficult neighborhood and lack of social skills outside of work etc.

What I do not post about, is what it feels like to be raped with an electrical cord wrapped around my neck while my one year old sleeps in the other end of the room and I can hear his breathing. If my breath stops, so does his , if only metaphorically.

Every second of that has a life of its own, and it feels like ten lives. He cant be conscious of it, but I see in his eyes that he knows.

My dog died recently, he was my last baby to save.- its not about a dog.

You do not know each of us, ask if you feel some are sponging up good will they havent earned with terror.

Do it privately, doesnt have to be anyones business. Knowledge is power.

Id like to say that rape was the worst thing that ever hapened to me, it isnt.
Your job sounds like a cakewalk to some of us too, you know.

I see a few light weights here, but not many. Im ever so aware that I can and probably am, wrong. Based on only posts and threads.

 

[Oteluk]

What I do not post about, is what it feels like to be raped with an electrical cord wrapped around my neck while my one year old sleeps in the other end of the room and I can hear his breathing. If my breath stops, so does his , if only metaphorically.

That is one wonderful point! I have been very open here about my past but MANY aren't and if you are basing this on posts here, or even what you know of a person in real life, which may be a small part of what they've been through, then it is completely flawed logic.

 

[Ava]

I think it's odd that people with PTSD are taking offense / jumping into comparing traumas instead of looking at what the OP is saying about people who don't have PTSD and have never experienced serious trauma, trying to claim PTSD.

Yeah. I earned my PTSD. If you have PTSD? So did you. By surviving. By living through your trauma. By doing what you had to do. And you're not the person being talked about.

People have enough trouble, IMO, believing their own life threatening trauma is "bad enough". Mixing in people who someone cut in line in the grocery store, or are experiencing soul crushing life destroying grief, or who are eyeballs deep in other disorders, and everything in between doesn't make things easier. Places like NAMI are where anyone and everyone with any mental health issues can talk about anything and everything. Places like MyPTSD and TeamConnor are where people with PTSD go to talk about anything and everything, and people with kids dying of cancer go to talk about anything and everything.

It's okay for there to be a place for you. Where you go to talk about doughnuts and dogs, or go to talk about serious shit most people can only imagine.

My 2cents.