People Faking Ptsd

[Gihepig]

I think it's odd that people with PTSD are taking offense / jumping into comparing traumas instead of looking at what the OP is saying about people who don't have PTSD and have never experienced serious trauma, trying to claim PTSD.

I'm not taking offense, though I am wondering, why does it matter if you claim PTSD for a slight life stressor when I grew up in living hell? That doesn't take away my trauma or PTSD, recovery or therapies if you claim PTSD for something non-PTSD causing stressor. Why does it matter?

I am just wondering.

 

[Iruso]

I'm not taking offense, though I am wondering, why does it matter if you claim PTSD for a slight life stressor when I...

It matters.

It matters A LOT in the grand scheme of things because we don't live in a vacuum.

It's hard to get taken seriously with PTSD or to be treated fairly. You add in people who claim PTSD because their mail was late last Tuesday and who are over it in a flash, you end up with the public at large not taking PTSD seriously, people thinking that if so and so hot over it so fast, then you should too. You eventually end up back at the old cliché of "just get over it, and yes, I'm pretty sure that we all hate that saying.

Maybe you live in a protective bubble but I live in the real world where outside influences do indeed affect me. I want to live in a world where PTSD is more greatly understood and people actually take me seriously.

Maybe your PTSD isn't so bad. Maybe you can hide it from the world. My PTSD is severe enough that I cannot hide it. It is for this reason that outside opinions of this disorder matter a lot.

 

[Oto]

I think it's odd that people with PTSD are taking offense / jumping into comparing traumas instead of looking at wh...

I think it's odd that people with PTSD are taking offense / jumping into comparing traumas instead of looking at wh...

The hardest part of having ptsd is that there is no definition that makes us all qualified

I'm an attorney. Last year I was asked to dig up dirt on a boss that had an 'abused' employee to keep up his diagnosis and payments for his lawyers case.

I have children, I live month to month, I did my job.

I fantasized about hurting this guy for months. A sous chef earning more than half my income on disability I handed to him.

You tell me, who the f*ck do you think you are?

I am doing you a favor by encouraging you to check yourself, I'm not attacking an anonymous person. keep in mind you dont know who you're talking to either.

Our common bond is unimaginable pain that no one else understands.

Thats it , just the pain. You think you've got something special?,
lets see it.

 

[Tatew]

Maybe you live in a protective bubble

Nope

Maybe your PTSD isn't so bad

It's horrible.

My PTSD is severe enough that I cannot hide it.

Neither can i

So all assumptions aside, I was horrified about people claiming to have PTSD over a bump on their head. It affected me so bad that it threw me in a tailspin for about a month that a family member that wouldn't even support me was now trying to fake it for benefits. It mortified me that people seemed to want it when i had to go through torture, literally, to get PTSD. I'd go off on those here that had some notmal life stressor and said they had PTSD. It affected me badly and I would have a storm of emotions for so long over it.

But, I was able to eventually stand back from that family member, talking it out, and saw that their faking it didn't affect me at all. Ir doesn't change my trauma or therapy. It did not matter one bit.

People don't think "oh, it's just PTSD. Another one of those". They know that you have gone through something horrible to have this diagnosis.

My point is, you will always have people self diagnosing over a normal life stressor or trying to place their symptoms, people faking it for benefits, and people trying to create a fad. But that doesn't have to affect me!

 

[Zohe]

I lived two decades with PTSD before having the label.

 

[Efivi]

Nope

Like you never part of up, or worked with people that described a torture of meaning that'd you feel were more a part of where you belonged?

Sounds like bad senior year.

 

[Cihife]

Like you never part of up, or worked with people that described a torture of meaning that'd you feel were more a part of where you belonged?

Sounds like bad senior year.

What?

 

[Gako]

What?

my point was at tatew

We all have a bad year, so to speak

 

[Inoco]

Nope



It's horrible.



Neither can i

So all assumptions aside, I was horrified about people claiming to have PTSD ov...

Gako

Get an effing grip.

we live with no one understanding.
You get a bummer moment with other coffee moms that dont appreciate , I'll hand you my life on silver plater.

FFS

 

[Wubozam]

I'm not taking offense, though I am wondering, why does it matter if you claim PTSD for a slight life stressor when I grew up in living hell? That doesn't take away my trauma or PTSD, recovery or therapies if you claim PTSD for something non-PTSD causing stressor.

For me? Because of this:

People have enough trouble, IMO, believing their own life threatening trauma is "bad enough". Mixing in people who someone cut in line in the grocery store, or are experiencing soul crushing life destroying grief, or who are eyeballs deep in other disorders, and everything in between doesn't make things easier.

I have a hard time accepting that what happened to me was capital-T, criterion A trauma. I often can't see it that way - even just being objective about it.

But, that's a thing I work on. Some days are better than others.

On the bad days, when I am telling myself the things I've told myself for years in order to cope ('it wasn't that bad', 'you survived, didn't you?', etc) - and experiencing cognitive dissonance because I'm still trying to hold on to what is actually true ('it was bad', 'it's not a bad thing that you lived') - then, someone coming along and defending how they got PTSD from a really bad breakup....it kind of makes my head explode.

And it's not that person's fault. To them, it is a huge trauma they've gone through. But me, I'm trying to keep myself believing in the facts that say what causes PTSD, and that I've lived those facts, and that I have this disorder...it's just too much, sometimes.

You tell me, who the f*ck do you think you are?

I'm not sure you read the post you are responding to all the way through, because I think they agree with you...?

We all have a bad year, so to speak

I'm having a very hard time understanding how this is related to this conversation.

 

[Zukun]

my point was at tatew

I was tatew. It's the anonymous forum, we all get unique names.

I was tortured. It was my trauma. I was using that as an example. This isn't about my trauma or your trauma.

I'll hand you my life on silver plater.

I'll take it as long as you take mine.

and experiencing cognitive dissonance because I'm still trying to hold on to what is actually true ('it was bad', 'it's not a bad thing that you lived') - then, someone coming along and defending how they got PTSD from a really bad breakup....it kind of makes my head explode.

Ok, I get that. I also have an issue was "was it really that bad?" And I am not defending the position of claiming everything gives you PTSD. That's very wrong to do. I am just saying that it effected me very, VERY, bad where I could not fuction due to my family member faking PTSD, to the point where I posted it on here. I talked it out with people and realized that he faking PTSD doesn't effect me one bit. I can't control him. I can only control myself. That's all.

 

[Nates]

After I told my narcissistic and/or possibly PD mother I had PTSD, she said she had PTSD, too, from my father leaving her. I knew better than to engage her in that way, as she emotionally and occasionally physically abused us. I was just thinking, oh really? I totally understood why he left her, even though living without him I think led directly to some of the experiences I had that ultimately led to my PTSD. I couldn't understand how anyone could stand living with her, and I left home as soon as my ability and conscience enabled me to. My mother is highly functional and has no symptoms of PTSD, except that she says she has nightmares. But she never has trouble sleeping. She just was always in competition with me. I'm like, you should be soooo glad you don't have PTSD. I wish I could be as functional as her. I would love to be my old self-actualizing self again. F-off, indeed.