Platitudes: Which Ones Make You Scream?

[ms spock]

(((Ms Spock))), I am lost for words. If anyone had tried or will try to hurt my girls (aged 24 and 22) I would pull them apart limb by limb. Forgive me for saying this, she may have given birth to you but those are not the words of a mother.

Absolutely - it is funny though - I remembered all that but it has only been the last five years that I have emotionally connected to the content of those comments.

 

[leweyoz]

wow craftycath your email really hit home...

 

[CraftyCath]

I think I live with the Platitude Family!!!! :mad: :D

 

[Srain]

"What's done is done." :ninja:....really?!?

 

[CraftyCath]

Done but not dealt with Rain. x

 

[a3a2]

I'm not sure this counts as a plattitude, but boy, it pisses me off...".I only say this because I love you and I want you to be happy". This is part of an "apology".

 

[AngelaMarie]

The latest one that was used to attack me was:
You aren't sick, you are just lazy! :(:cry::mad:

 

[leweyoz]

ohh ouch AngelaMarie, hugs!!!

 

[leweyoz]

Hmm just thinking how these platitudes cheese us off, but wondering just what would we want to hear. And I guess that is the big answer, it's for someone to shut up and listen for a change. But we've all agreed about the tough love and boundaries etc needing to be made. So I wonder what is an effective and acceptible way for someone to convey those things?

Will need to think myself what I'd answer...

 

[Meadowsweet]

(((angelamarie)))

I have most of these platitudes ingrained on my mind so much that I find I say them to myself.

Dont be a wimp.
You have to take responsibity for yourself, no one else will
You make your own bed

 

[Meadowsweet]

I'd like someone to say "shit happens, its not your fault, but sadly you are the personm left to pick up the pieces. Please let me know if I can do anything and if you need to vent I won't take it personally"

 

[amethist]

What's wrong with you, I am OK now.

This from another sufferer who is in complete denial. (Not on the forum)