Platitudes: Which Ones Make You Scream?

[LaurenRose]

"Why are you trying to be sicker than the rest of us?" One I got continually when in treatment for substance abuse before I knew it was PTSD. Funny thing is that they pride themselves on their expertise with trauma.

 

[goingonhope]

"I have a friend who is in a situation similar to yours, and he/she is at peace with that situation."

I should clarify that first I wouldn't really scream and second this is most annoying when it's said and clearly no time has ever been taken to even ask or listen to what your situation is. It potentially goes straight to a trigger of mine of other's making ridiculous presumptions on very limited info., observation or thought; The time to listen or get to know you is rather unimportant, because they just already know, ...they're not interested, or ...your purpose apparently was for them to go ahead and just release themselves upon you.

 

[BrazenBull]

a few weeks ago i got taken to an airport and robbed and i had to walk back home in a typhoon and i had to go see the guidance counselor because my teacher saw marks on my hand from punching the wall put of anger and almost breaking my knuckles.
He said stuff like that and it made me feel disappointed and uncomfortable because it reminded me of ... other things.
the only thing i shared other then what happened was "can I go now?its nothing i gotta go to class"
when he said "In your mind its not a big deal, but it is and other people go through it everyday" so im like "ok so..."

also what about "Time heals all wounds" <---- f*cking bullshit
I'm still the same social f*ck up that i was when I was 12 only when I was 12 I didn't have any friends or support and I didn't;t know what PTSD was and I thought something was really wrong with me. Not implying having PTSD isnt not amazing wat- ./shuts up
._. ok I think i need fore sleep

 

[BrazenBull]

I just thought Therapists and Counselors are supposed to listen and understand, not compare your situation with others and make it sound like your feelings and situation are normal and youre going to get over it eventually.

 

[ms spock]

"What doesnt kill you makes you stronger":speechless:

How I would love to believe that!

In my humble opinion anyone who says that should just spontaneously combust.

And I am sure that someone has put this one but it bears repeating.

"When do you think you will get over it?"

or that trusty variation

How long will it take you to get over it?

and

"Aren't you over that yet?"

People who are that cruel and thoughtless should be placed in a rocket and fired in to the sun.

*goes in search of rocket fuel*

The question is will my rocket be big enough to fit my sexual predator abusive family?
ms spock

 

[ms spock]

I just thought Therapists and Counselors are supposed to listen and understand, not compare your situation with others and make it sound like your feelings and situation are normal and youre going to get over it eventually.

They can do a lot of damage! I have experienced that myself.
ms spock

 

[goingonhope]

Kinda like: "You need to get over it and get on with your life."

 

[ms spock]

A LOT OF DAMAGE! That is what makes me so angry I have been in therapy since I was 15 because I knew had problems growing up in the dysfunctional family I came from. I was exploited, abused and used by people who are registered professionals. It is only the last two years I got to see someone who has good boundaries and professionalism.

So People saying "You've been in therapy along time now, don't you think it is time to move on!?"

 

[ms spock]

"It must be happening for a reason" shits me too. Just try blaming the victim and deny any responsibility, next time.
"We all have to do things we don't want to". I didn't want to live with her either.
"I'm a realist".
The list of Yeti's self serving platitudes was endless.
Scott

This functions to allow abuse as a social function to continually reoccur in our society.

The platitudes are the theory. The abuse and violence is the social practice.

Those that stand by and watch with judgement and blame condone those that do the violence in my opinion.

ms spock

 

[goingonhope]

Here's a few annoying one's which have tended to be quite annoying, sometimes even quite hurtful because of the context and timing, and sometimes also the indifference and ignorance in which has surrounded it.

"You'll be fine."
"You'll get over this in no time."
"God doesn't give you more then you can handle."
"I know that whatever happens you'll do well. You're a strong individual and I have confidence in you."
"I can't think of a person better able to handle this suffering then you."

 

[ms spock]

This too shall pass!

 

[AngelaMarie]

The question is will my rocket be big enough to fit my sexual predator abusive family?

Oh, if there was only a rocket that big. Then I would finally feel at peace on this planet!;)