Please Help - Therapist Issue

[anon88]

I think I might feel threatened that a therapist could intrude on my life. I have never had a therapist, as I can't afford it and would be too scared of opening up to anyone with power over my life as I was badly hurt by that as a child, they sided with my mother against me. I wouldn't trust any therapist who didn't make absolutely plain from the start that anything I said would not go beyond that room, and I wouldn't trust any therapist who puts parents on pedestals.

 

[jesse]

I would say it is unorthodox but think you have a very compassionate T. You are fortunate to have found one that is nice. My last one was a complete jerk. It's not professional but who cares really? It sounds like she is a really sincere person and no harm no foul.

 

[glasgow]

Hi there, I have worked as a therapist.social worker for many years. Nowadays I'm retired with PTSD.
There are some therapeutic approaches which would encourage this type of behaviour, but because you are suffering from trauma you seriously need clear boundaries to feel safe. Your life needs to be as predictable as possible.
Personally I would keep the lines of distinction clear because all sorts of transference and counter-transference issues are part of the therapeutic process and it could get very messy and add to the trauma.
It would seem that you already get a gut/primeval reaction to her invitation that is making you uncomfortable. I think it would be fairly unusual for a trauma specialist to use this method of therapy.
I would be asking myself who's needs is the therapist trying to meet? If they are not yours then don't go there. You don't need to see her house, and she is not your friend.
HTH
Glasgow