Don't know if theis is the right place to post this...my apologies and permission to shift it whereever appropriate if not.
Some of you know that my husband D is in an in-treatment program. This morning he called crying and upset wanting to come home. He is having a hard time dealing with the rules I think. He was upset because they would not give him his meds without his name badge (forgot it in his room.) He had his ID bracelet on but I guess even with pics of the patient in the file, they need the name badge.
These meds (as most of you know) are not things that can be withheld like that so it concerned me. I think maybe they didn't figure he would get so upset as to refuse to go get the badge (he says it was because he sprained his ankle and is too tired to walk back and get it).
The center is not really a lockdown so he could leave. They did tell me though they make them go through a psych eval to make sure they arent a danger first, though. That is, if he didn't just take off and disappear, which I wouldn't put past him.
They are seeing, finally after 2 weeks, the issues. He can't handle the least bit of stress or things not going exactly his way. I let them know that and that at this point at home he would be cutting, banging his head, isolating, threatening suicide (he says he doesnt want to kill self, but why try to get to the guns then?)
I am praying they can help him through this. He really needs to stay there. Last night he sounded great, said he had some break throughs with his first shooting in EMDR. He reeeeaaally doesn't like not being in control, though, and is very upset about "being treated like a child, telling me when I can eat, take my meds, I can't sleep..."
I talked to the nurse and let her know what the progression would be if he were at home experiencing this right now. She then asked me if he snores at home...I guess they can hear him outside the room even. I told them he has been snoring as he has gained weight but I told her if she asks him if he is sleeping, he will insist he is not. He had already complained to me today that he is not sleeping AT ALL. He says this at home too, yet I sleep very lightly right next to him and he snores all night. Don't know if it matters or not, I just thought it was an interesting question for her to ask.
I really pray he stays. He has so much more to work on and learn. Biggest thing I think this can teach him is to compromise and that in real life things arean't always going to go his way.He needs the tools to deal with that. These are the behaviors that are exhuasting me. He fought so hard to get into this program. It took 3 yrs to convince the insurance provider. If he gives this up it will be near impossible to get them to do anything else.
LAA
Some of you know that my husband D is in an in-treatment program. This morning he called crying and upset wanting to come home. He is having a hard time dealing with the rules I think. He was upset because they would not give him his meds without his name badge (forgot it in his room.) He had his ID bracelet on but I guess even with pics of the patient in the file, they need the name badge.
These meds (as most of you know) are not things that can be withheld like that so it concerned me. I think maybe they didn't figure he would get so upset as to refuse to go get the badge (he says it was because he sprained his ankle and is too tired to walk back and get it).
The center is not really a lockdown so he could leave. They did tell me though they make them go through a psych eval to make sure they arent a danger first, though. That is, if he didn't just take off and disappear, which I wouldn't put past him.
They are seeing, finally after 2 weeks, the issues. He can't handle the least bit of stress or things not going exactly his way. I let them know that and that at this point at home he would be cutting, banging his head, isolating, threatening suicide (he says he doesnt want to kill self, but why try to get to the guns then?)
I am praying they can help him through this. He really needs to stay there. Last night he sounded great, said he had some break throughs with his first shooting in EMDR. He reeeeaaally doesn't like not being in control, though, and is very upset about "being treated like a child, telling me when I can eat, take my meds, I can't sleep..."
I talked to the nurse and let her know what the progression would be if he were at home experiencing this right now. She then asked me if he snores at home...I guess they can hear him outside the room even. I told them he has been snoring as he has gained weight but I told her if she asks him if he is sleeping, he will insist he is not. He had already complained to me today that he is not sleeping AT ALL. He says this at home too, yet I sleep very lightly right next to him and he snores all night. Don't know if it matters or not, I just thought it was an interesting question for her to ask.
I really pray he stays. He has so much more to work on and learn. Biggest thing I think this can teach him is to compromise and that in real life things arean't always going to go his way.He needs the tools to deal with that. These are the behaviors that are exhuasting me. He fought so hard to get into this program. It took 3 yrs to convince the insurance provider. If he gives this up it will be near impossible to get them to do anything else.
LAA
