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[May1321]

((((LAA)))) Lots of prayers and strength to getting through this for both you and your husband!!!

ISH brought up a point I was thinking of also... sometimes the snoring is what is the result of the affected sleep. My dad has Sleep Apnea that is definitely related to his weight and as my brother has gained weight due to the stress he's taken on due to his PTSD, his snoring has increased as well as his sleep deprivation, etc. and he also has been given a "snorkel snoozer" as we call it around the family to help him sleep easier. My dad now sleeps/rests better than ever and so do we :) :tup: I don't think my brother uses his like he should and I know suffers a lot from insomnia and depression when his dreams and stress are worse.

 

[May1321]

I'm behind in my reading and jumped the gun.... but I hope things are going well and you are able to see a light at the end of your tunnel while there.

(((((((HUGS)))))))

 

[LAA]

WHEW....ok, that was really more emotion in one spot than I have ever been a party too (not counting when I've been on a call).

The group is very well guided, we practiced and the therapists made certain our wording was just right so we were addressing the behavior, not the person...we had to say to the person at the begininning, "This is about the behavior, this is not about who you are a a person".

I do not like to hurt people though and I knew some of this would be sooo hard for D to hear, he already struggles with so much guilt and shame. It broke my heart, but the therapists assured us they (another couple was confronting their son as well, since they are in the same group, the whole group is there to support them- total of the four men, the other couple, my stepson and I then our therapist we've been working with and thier therapist they've been with the past month. The patients then stay in their group to process it all...they better get my dear husband through this! (Going to Yoga again or I will sit here and beat myself up and obsess.)

My dear stepson was taken a bit surprised by his own emotion, but it is so good for him too. As I have known, but haven't been able to convey to them, they both want a stronger relationship with each other and have missed each other, now they know and I didn't get codependent about it! YAY! He is also learning so much that is going to benefit his own family! He was wishing his wife was there too. I understood what he meant because the things we are learning this week are wonderful things for everyone that interacts with other humans whether they have had trauma or not.

Tomorrow we are on the receiving end...I actually think I handle it coming my direction than sending it so I am not as stressed. I guess I will see how I feel about that statement after tomorrow.:eek:

Thank you so much for the thoughts and prayers.

LAA

 

[LAA]

Well, I pick D up on Wednesday. I can't believe 45 days is almost over. I guess it seems that long sometimes but really, to me, it has gone fast.

Last week I could tell he was fearful of coming home. He didn't say anything and neither did I. I figured if he wanted to bring it up, he would. This week he told me he got really scared when he though about coming home last week. He was afraid he would revert back to his previous lack of coping skills methods of handling stress which were less than effective (holding gun to his head and cutting, mainly).

He has worked with his therapist and group on this and now feels a lot better. They encouraged him to write down what he is going to do now, before anything hits to trigger him. We also have already set up appointments for his continuing treatments that are working (EMDR, acupuncture and an appointment with a Zen Wellness Center that specializes in the meditation and yoga he has been doing.)

He will still be with the same psychiatrist for the meds which makes me nervous as this is the Dr that had him so very drugged. He was on 6 different psych drugs, two Rx sleep aids, thyroid med and testosterone when he went in. He has worked very hard to get off or lower the doses of a lot of the psych and sleep drugs and I would hate for that to start again. His Dr at the treatment center has assured me D now knows what the dangers are and what the meds do so he is a lot more informed. That Dr has told D he may be able to get off a lot more of the meds within 6 mos to a year if he continues with the counseling and other therapies.

I guess right now I feel cautiously hopeful. It would be so nice to have my real husband back, even if the "PTSD D" is still there some of the time, which I know is the most probable scenario. The past few years have been tough, living with someone who I remembered as my husband, but sure didn't act like him very often. I really just keep praying he will finally find something that will bring him some peace.

LAA

 

[Tinyflame]

I pray and hope for a beginning and growth of wonderful peace- and joy too- for both of you.
xox

 

[LAA]

Thank you Junebug..I just hope I can keep up with him! Seems like he has learned so much while I ve been here going about the same routine (well, with the exception of the 105 degree yoga:eek:)

LAA

 

[ISupportHer]

IIt took me a while to understand the fear of coming home. I mean, from my perspective, who would want to stay in a hospital or treatment facility? But it IS very daunting to leave the controlled. safe environment to return to real life. As I am sure you are aware LAA, there will be a transition time.

I am sending you both all the positive thoughts, and hope for a positive future, that I can possibly muster!!!

Things will be better, I hope, but the battle continues. Now with new tools for him to use!

ISH

 

[Toria]

Wow that's gone quickly! Just to wish you all the best of luck on his return - it may not be easy (what is?!) but I'm sure it will be worth it - and what a fantastic place that sounds to be!!!!