Other Porn addiction in a relationship

[Anon6739]

First off I’d like to thank you to anybody who commented on my last post, the support has helped me feel better about who I am and my history. What this post is about though is that I’ve had a porn addiction for years, lots of people say it doesn’t exist and you can just quit but I don’t feel that way, before it didn’t bother me but I met a wonderful girl who is the best part of my life. I’ve tried to stop but the longest I’ve gone is a week. I just want to know if there’s anyone else who struggles with the same thing, I’ve been doing it since I was 10 or 11 when I figured out how to do it. I’ve also heard about hyper sexuality but I’m assuming you need to get diagnosed by someone for that and I don’t have any way to talk to anyone.

 

[Dark.Green.Feathers]

hypersexuality is a symptom/descriptor, not a diagnosis in and of itself. It can be part of trauma/various disorders/TBI, or be a cumulation of other stuff without a diagnosis attached to it. What I’m saying if you don’t need a diagnosis to look into how other people have managed distressingly high/difficult to control sexual behaviour.
Porn addiction/dependency is definitely real, I’m sorry that you had access to this material so young.

My two cents is hypersexuality isn’t its own isolated thing, always something underlying that is driving it. The root problem(s) is underneath, so just trying to curb porn use alone probably wont be successful long-term. That in combo with untangling stuff underneath? More success.

 

[Dark.Green.Feathers]

Also, don’t get yourself stuck down the route of controlling your bodily reactions, you can’t, don’t demonise it. It’s about your reaction to them, and curating the media you focus on. And ofc tending to whatever is underneath.

 

[arfie]

I’ve also heard about hyper sexuality but I’m assuming you need to get diagnosed by someone for that and I don’t have any way to talk to anyone.

i will second @Dark.Green.Feathers on the notion that hypersexuality is a symptom of several psych disorders. in my own case it was a result of child prostitution. i was a prostitute before i knew what a prostitute was. i'll let you guess the definition of "good girl" i was raised with. i was the "good girl" in 8mm child porn. i doubt my amateur producers made the internet.

i recuse myself from the subject of porn addiction, but tv and its many genres is super addictive. i try not to get caught, but i am super addicted to telenovelas. shhhhh. . . don't tell my hub-a-lub. he hates the themes i pick up from telenovelas.