Predator Showing Up At My Last Job

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Last attempt- Called the police department just to at least ask if I have enough to make a case or report, I felt as though I got the run around, I tried to explain that he is not showing up at my home, but at my old job and it is making me feel uncomfortable and scared, she did not comment much on that just repeated the part where is he shows up at my house I can call the police. She did ask for my number and name so she could have a police contact me, I told her I was not comfortable giving it yet until I was sure I had a justified reason to report. She just said okay and kind of left it at that. I was hoping to at least have someone listen a bit better and explain things better. From what she told me I think she was saying that I should not call until he is threatening me in my home. I can show records of him calling so much in the past, my bf heard his threats, he has a history of stalking and harassment, he has a known history of violence against animals, and people, he has been in and out of jail, there are plenty of other bathrooms in the area closer to him he can use besides choosing my past job. Are these not all reasons to be worried. He use to show me the mask and ropes in his trunk to warn me, but I have no way to proof that. Most of it I can not proof and I know its easy for them to deem me mentally ill because technically I am, but I am because of what I have been through so at this point I do not see a reason. I hope I am not bringing people down. I just want someone to know I tried.

 

[Wolvescry]

You know what, theres no point, I report I am crazy. Gives more fuel against me, people judge for struggling and those who know judge me for not saying anything. Do they not understand what its like to fear someone so much? I really did try, multiple times. No one ever listens. Maybe I am making this bigger then it is, maybe he really just needed to use the restroom all those times. IDK I think from here on I am just going to let it go and hope for the best.

 

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There is a very good book that has been an invaluable resource to me.

It is called the Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. It would be very good as a support resource for you.

I am so sorry you are not getting any real help or answers. And I really feel for you so much.

I hope you get this book. He is an expert on stalkers and explains things you can do to help you document things and to protect yourself and trust your gut instincts.

I admit is hard to read but it has helped me so much.

 

[Wolvescry]

Gizmo-Thank you so much for the support and book suggestion. I will def read it. My next post will be to continue recording my attempts somewhere just in case something does happen.

 

[Wolvescry]

Today around 11:00 am I went to my city police station to attempt to make an report, knowing that it is very unlikely to get charges pressed, but I can at least make a report. I went to the desk and let them know I wanted to make a report, she asked on what, I said on a potential stalking report. She then instructed me to pick up the red phone and talk to the deputy. There was on e person waiting in the small waiting room, and I couldn't help feel more anxious that the phone was foots away from her head. I picked up anyway and told the deputy about my report, we asked for my address. At the time I am on edge and do not feel comfortable giving it at the moment, I asked if I can give more personal information in private, he said they needed it, so I gave it, and my name. Then he told me he would meet me there shortly, I could not stand waiting in the small waiting room so I waited on the small bench right outside the door. I was fine for a bit, but then I realized people can see me at the police station and it can get back to him, I kept trying to hide behind things but I was to much and I left. I gave my address and name so I do not know if I would be receiving a visit. I just wish I could get a little more support from the police, sadly in my life I have gotten way more support from the people we are taught are criminals the I ever have with the police. I wish that can change.

 

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Final update- I finally got a sheriff to come and make a complaint, He said that there was nothing he can do, I explain that I know that but I wanted to make a report. He explained that I could only make a complaint. I asked if anyone gets hurt by him and reports it can they see my complaint so I can help. He said no, but if anything happened to me they can see the complaint. This was a bummer, because I want to help others if I can, and I would want to be a part of what stops him. The sheriff did hear me out, asked the harsh questions, like how do I know he just misses me and wants to see me? I explained how I feel he can use that excuse to get information on me from other people. I explained to him the harassing phone calls, and he said that could be considered harassment, but those stopped years ago. But at least he did not make me feel as crazy as most do. I was heard out, reassured that I was safe and he patrols the area all the time and will keep his eyes open, he also said he could keep an eye on the house when my bf goes out of town for a day. It was not much, but it was something.

 

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I really feel for your situation, especially when hearing from the police that there isn't much you can do. If you have a local domestic violence shelter, they often can be of more help. It is a family member so that may fall under domestic violence. I don't know, but it may be worth speaking to someone about.

 

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To be honest I called a shelter, and victims hotline and much more. There is no help there, life isn't always fair, but at least I can make myself stronger, and learn to defend myself. I think people are assuming I am just a nutcase who wants attention. Not that I am living in terror right now and looking for support. Thanks for the help though.