Relationship Pregnant Ptsd

[TDaily]

Hey everyone,
Posted a couple times to here in other threads. I'm happy to say I've learned a lot about being a supporter of someone with PTSD, and while there are always rough patches when with someone with PTSD, I have quickly learned how to deal with it and be a good partner to someone with the disease. Thick skin I have grown!

This post I write today is to inquire any other members if they have dealt with a partner who is pregnant and diagnosed with PTSD. Just a quick overview, my wife was diagnosed with PTSD resulting from a tour in Iraq and a failed marriage immediately following her tour. Her previous husband was unfaithful to her, and she has some trust issues.

I am happy to say we are 7 weeks pregnant and the first 6 went well. She was very self-conscience of the pregnancy and asked that we not tell anyone until the first ultrasound (about 6 weeks away still). I agreed to it, even though I was very excited for our first child (I do have a step-daughter from her previous marriage.) A few weeks ago, she started spilling the beans to some of her family and friends. I assumed this meant it was ok, so I told one of my friends, whom I know could keep it secret. Anyway, she found out and it triggered her trust issues again. She now says that she hates me, doesn't consider me anything more than a roomate now, wishes the baby would miscarry, ect. ect. ect. She doesn't want me coming to any doctor visits either.

Has anyone else experienced this? This isn't the first time she's blown up with "I hate yous" and "Our marriage is over" sprinkled with F-bombs. I've grown accustomed to them somewhat, but they still hurt. That being said, she always comes back from the brink, and I love her and my step-daughter dearly. I'm probably just posting to relieve a little pressure on myself under the special circumstances. What does everyone think? Is there any good advice for me?

 

[ghotiff]

Maybe understanding that miscarriages are very common and generally speaking you only tell people of your pregnancy if you would also want to tell them of a miscarriage. This might explain why her telling her support group is okay, but you telling your mate was not.

Pregnancy hormones, body changes etc will likely make her ptsd harder.

Good luck (and congratulations).

 

[PoopyPTSD]

I know from having trust issues myself, we are always looking for the bomb to drop. For the happiness and security we thought we believed in to be shattered. She will get past it, maybe tell her that you are sorry, you were so excited to be having a new life created by you both and was going to be a proud dad that you wanted to tell a friend. You realize now that that's a area that bothers her and you will for sure check with her ever again. Something my husband said the other day that stopped my trust rage, he said "I guess you will have to decide if I am worth keeping in your life" that really snapped me out of it. I hope it turns out well...