i fear the memory loss and i have a steady job and i need to be on my feet for it but its that or inpatient treatment next if i a. don't get my weight up b. mood doesn't really change then the ect probably i really don't know i think my team needs to talk about it and what is next in terms of things with me and my own decision of course with the proper research i know some hospitals around me that do it but i want to ask my psychiatrist more. i am hoping the meds i try make a little difference ...i just know it can't keep on like how it has been.
Some thoughts, hopefully they will help -
You mentioned that you've tried almost every medication. I'm glad to read that you are going to try something new, and I'd encourage you to think about the meds right now not as something that will provide lift (improved mood), but something that will place a cut-off on the 'bottom' of the depression (less severe). What is hard about this is, it doesn't necessarily make it any easier to do the other work you will need to do, managing your food intake and fighting the anorexia. That is something I'd encourage you to really double-down on the support for, however you can. Start going to a group if you're not, get your treatment team really focused on that issue. Check out nami.org for local resources, they can guide you to any local chapter in the US.
I'm not a psychiatrist so this is worth less than a grain of salt, but if you've not tried the medication Lithium yet, I would ask your doctor about it. Like ECT, it is an older but extremely effective approach. And like ECT, it has some negative side-effects - but it's important that you are going to the meds that I'd call the 'gold-standard' of psychiatric medicine. Also, Lithium is unique in that it's a natural substance put into pill form, not a cocktail cooked up in a lab. Often, people who have medication anxiety, or worries about getting trapped on too many drugs, find Lithium a very good fit.
Before you try ECT, I'd also encourage you to look into TMS. It is not as strong as ECT, but the trade-off is, it's not a procedure requiring anesthetic. Ask your doctor about it, see if you have any conditions that would keep you from receiving it. When the individual is in severe crisis, doctors will tend to go to the methods that are known to be effective on the biggest percentage of the population - and right now, that is still ECT. But TMS was developed in part for people who would benefit from ECT but don't necessarily need that level of intervention immediately.
It sounds like you are really struggling - but you are doing a great job staying involved in considering your options and continuing to fight for a solution to them.