Other Ptsd and high functioning autism

[Ronin]

Or they are more trusting which makes them more likely to be exploited.

I wouldn't say more trusting.

Clueless how to say no and worried about other people's reactions to 'breaking' of social protocol? Maybe. But that isn't necessarily the same thing as trust, or anywhere in the same land.

 

[void]

Yes, I have done therapy and learned tools to manage to an obsessive degree, even long before I had a...

Is that female friend a true friend?
Do true friends summarily reject their friend when they learn something new about them?
In my view, she showed you that she never was a true friend.
I have had 'friends' do this to me.
I choose to be glad when it happens...now I know the truth.
I empathize with the shock of the rejection...it does hurt.

Unless your family are d#%&@bags, they are probably reacting out of fear and ignorance.
This can be solved by patient re-assurance and education.
"I'm the same person you know and love, I just have a new label" etc....

You are in shock, from the new dx and the reaction of your peeps.
This will wear off in time.
Go look in a mirror and talk yourself through the pain and shock of it all.
I know you can do this!:hug:

 

[woundedmind]

I am doing my PhD dissertation on the subject of Autism (and being Catholic) and my 13 year old son...

You can feel for others in pain but still not understand them well. Although I have to say I find it difficult to empathize with a person crying over a ruined manicure when I and many other people have problems much worse that that person doesn't empathize with at all.

 

[DogwoodTree]

Although I have to say I find it difficult to empathize with a person crying over a ruined manicure when I and many other people have problems much worse that that person doesn't empathize with at all.

I don't think they can empathize with the worse stuff. It's like with miscarriages...I never had any clue how devastating a miscarriage could be, until I had one (and then another). Now my reaction to someone who has experienced a miscarriage is soooo different and more sensitive than before.

 

[Carolynne]

Ok Darling person. WHAT about the positives. The things you hear about autism are the multitude of reactions people use in order to overcome something they dont understand within themselves. These 'characteristics' are responses and can be changed. I wish I was your age when I knew my diagnosis. I fought hard to get a diagnosis at the age of 50 because I didnt appear Autistic because I am a women.... I worked hard at working with my condition. Not being able to communicate with others made me study the subject and now I am one of the best communicators I know. I am a leading lady on stage. Autism has given me great artistic gifts which I worked hard to uncover through intense fear. I am a celloist in a rock band reknown for playing music from the heart and not from a music sheet. You see my brain works like I am on acid, frightening at first cos I see everything all at once, but it also gives me the ability to create great works of art which leave people feeling jealous of me. I have learnt to become humble and to help the neurotypicals around me to express themselves too....and then I dont get bullied and they get happier. I have inspired many others, often through my human failures through which i have grown. I have an autistic daughter who is so loved and secure now, cos I understand her and rejoice in her uniqueness, she is like a magnet to all around her. My other two NT daughters are so open and free as they've been brought up by a mother who feels very deeply for all of humanity in a way that no NT can. They are well loved members of our community. Do you want me to go on? Ive got a brilliant degree in science...........dont put me in a box ! I say find yourself ! And realise that others are frightened of you and they try and put you down. Learn to understand their language. We are all beautiful magical people. Dont get cross. Start exploring.

 

[Deleted member 20978]

Autistic spectrum questions aside, I say you don't need a friend who even suggests maybe you shouldn't be friends because of who you are.