Relationship Ptsd Denial.

[toomuchlovetoletgo]

My boyfriend denies his ptsd diagnosis and refuses medication. Any help would be amazing.

 

[digger]

What makes him think the diagnosis is wrong? What do you think he needs to be on medication for? Not everyone chooses to go down the meds route - does he have reasons why he doesn't want to? Is he, or has he been, in therapy?

 

[toomuchlovetoletgo]

He is in therapy but refuses to talk about his problems with his therapist. He was diagnosed with ptsd but I feel he thinks that the diagnosis is a sign of weakness. He was also diagnosed with psychopathy. He has been prescribed medications but refuses to take them. He has trouble sleeping and nightmares every night. He will jump so violently in his sleep that it wakes me up. He has no patience for anything. He also has violent outbursts over insignificant things and believes that his behavior is always justifiable. No matter how many people tell him that it is not. It's like he tries to push down his feelings and it lasts a couple of days. But by the third day he is exploding over everything. These episodes last a few days before he calms down again. I'd rather him have small outbursts every day than to hold it all in until he explodes. I am afraid that something small will make him snap and the damage to our relationship will be irreversible.

 

[toomuchlovetoletgo]

His psychopathic tendencies come to light when he charms his therapist into believing that everything if fine. Instead of helping him she ends up agreeing with him because he has mastered manipulation.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Wait, you're dating a psychopath? Have you really thought about this relationship or are you in love with the guy you knew 8 years ago?

 

[toomuchlovetoletgo]

I have thought long and hard about this. We have been in contact often throughout the years. I knew about his diagnosis before I made this decision. He it's definitely different than he was when I used to be close with him. As I said he has mastered manipulation. He has a way of always making me feel like I am wrong even when I know that I am not. It is hard enough to deal with his psychopathic tendencies. But coupled with his ptsd I feel I am at a loss. Alot of the time we are amazing together. But it makes me wonder if everything that I love about him is just what he does to draw me closer. I feel like when he had an episode his true side comes out.

 

[Anarchy]

How about putting the effort into getting your own life right?

At the moment you are giving some pretty strong indications of co-dependency.

You'll never manage to save another from the bad consequences of their actions and irresponsibility, but you can save you.

Please don't feel bad about it, your intentions are good, but your present path only leads you to one place, and it isn't a good place.

 

[Momofthree]

I dated and marred a psychopath (he was diagnosed after I got away from him), the relationship was a horrible nightmare and ended when he tried to murder me. He is incapable of loving you by the vary nature of psychopathy. Do you really want to be in a loveless relationship?

 

[toomuchlovetoletgo]

I have been trying to work on myself but I feel as if nothing I do is enough for him to realize that.

If you don't mind me asking, can you tell me some of the things that lead up to that finality? Actions or behaviors?

 

[Momofthree]

Because nothing you do will ever be good enough... not because you aren't good enough, you are perfect the way you are, he is a psychopath and they need to leach off of people's negative emotions to survive. You have two choices: 1. You mold to his every want and he will drain you until there is nothing left, at which point he will dump you or kill you. 2. You focus on you and don't let him consume you and he'll leave to find easier pray. I know this isn't want you want to hear but it is the reality of a psychopath.

 

[Momofthree]

Are you asking me that last question @toomuchlovetoletgo?

 

[toomuchlovetoletgo]

I have not been able to find anything about being in a successful relationship with a psychopath. Can you give any more specific examples? I feel were passed the love bombing stage.