Ptsd from being dumped 4 years ago...

[WindupDoll]

from what i am seeing from others im on the wrong website and should be looking for something to help my anxiety (im shakeing right now typeing this) it is really bad and i dont have much conrol over it..is there any good places i can go to?

thank you all for being so helpful and haveing patience for person that most likely should not be on the website

 

[AnD]

Hello, @WindupDoll
I have to speak up after reading (skimmed) your post and what others have written.
I see that you are in a lot of pain. My guess is that you actually might have ptsd, but not from the break-up. I think the break-up was a major trigger for you.

It seems that you were emotionally neglected by your mother. Bullied by your classmates. Both of them can cause ptsd. Google bullying and ptsd and you can see yourself. And also what the people at your day care did. I think that was traumatic, horrible and repeated.

Read Pete Walkers book about c-ptsd: Pete Walker, M.A. Psychotherapy. Maybe you will see yourself in this text. But most of all seek therapy.

Be safe

 

[anthony]

@WindupDoll, I'm sitting on the fence to a similar outcome as @AnD, except I differ slightly. Firstly, don't Google bullying and PTSD, because 99% of what you read will be total bullshit and nonsense, people trying to claim PTSD from minor, normal, childhood bullying that occurs. As you have discovered, you can't be diagnosed from a relationship breakup.

I think you have a lot of compounding emotional traumatic events, which can certainly provide an outcome similar to that of PTSD. A therapist may diagnose you with different names, but the symptoms cross-over considerably. Was there sexually provocative / abuse within the bullying?

I think you're in the right place to discuss your traumatic occurrences, which are causing you distress in an otherwise non-related event, yet distressing for you nonetheless -- a breakup.

 

[Deanna]

Hard Truth:

He dumped you because he was not financially secure. He stumbled across you really, You weren't what he really wanted. When you said something about your dad, that made you a liability to him and he didn't want that. He was more concerned with money and that's totally it. You said you were kind of envious of him so he saw you as someone that didn't fit into his circle.

I know you took everything personally, but after everything that has been written, it wouldn't have turned -out any different.

I'm sorry that you had to go through so much drama but it was a waste of time.It wasn't you, he was looking for financial stability. Drop it.

 

[Deanna]

It's really not that complicated, and definitely not something that would give a person ptsd....

It doesn't have to cause PTSD, but my brother committed suicide over his first break-up. He was 16 and the girl dumped him.

I just wish that the OP could realize that there was she could do. It was a waste of time. She's happy now, so that's good.

Correction- I just wish the OP could realize that there was nothing she could do.