Or do i just have low standards for the people in my life?
It’s a pretty high standard for betrayal, I suppose? I don’t put a lot of people into position to be able to betray me.
- If I make a vow? I take it seriously.
- If I swear an oath? I take it seriously.
- If I make a contract? I fulfill it, or exit …carefully.
- I don’t sell people out, in my care, to their enemies.
- I don’t sell people out, generally, as a rule… although there is some ..up to a wide swath… of wiggle room there for discernment.
- Even if I haven’t sworn to protect the lives in my purview, I generally act as if I have, within limits. Essentially? The responsibility without the rights & privileges.
Until/Unless they prove they cannot be trusted. I may still care about them, but I will never put them in a position to betray me, again, and usually back up a full circle to limit their being put in that position by someone else.
I expect companies to go back on their word, and have learned to always buy my own K&R insurance (and life insurance, by association, although I’ve clearly never needed that and found that my company has changed their policy to save a buck), always have some things set aside so I can make my own way home. The more a company swears up & down they do right by their people? The less I trust them to actually do that.
I expect most people’s promises to actually translate to “if I happen to feel like it, at the time, maybe”, and most people’s word/honour/integrity to mean even less.