Question About Posts Going Off Topic

[batgirl]

You don't have to apologize. I shouldn't even be online. My brother had a close call in Afghanistan, he was nearby where a suicide bomb went off. This has made me ill, and on the same day, I had my feelings hurt in the male influence thread, I felt stupid in there, so now I am super sensitive and taking everything badly.

 

[Deleted member 541]

Evie,

Being sensitive and having your feelings hurt is just part of being human. It happens to ALL of us, there is no need to feel stupid about being human, and having feelings.....

 

[Kathy]

Very well said Wendy. Everyone gets their feelings hurt at times, and it is definitely nothing to feel ashamed of Evie.

 

[batgirl]

I guess I am too hard on myself. I've been having a lot of anxiety with posting here, the last few weeks or so. I've tried to post anyhow and try to be honest about my thoughts and feelings, but I feel so vulnerable. I post and then get really scared about what other people are going to say back to me. I have no confidence in my opinions about anything. Partially why I continue to post is as exposure so I can gain some confidence or self-esteem. But when I make a mistake or someone disagrees with me or whatever, I take it so badly, I feel like a total idiot. It makes me want to not post at all anymore. I don't know what to do to make it better because I keep getting hurt and it doesn't seem to be getting any better for me.

 

[2quilt]

I sincerely apologize Evie for getting silly back there with my "lion cub" comment. I was just trying to be funny. I did not realize that you were serious. I would never do anything on purpose to hurt your feelings.

Cyndi

 

[batgirl]

Wow you didn't realize my post was serious? Well I guess that explains it if people thought I was joking. Sorry for being so sensitive. I was being serious though.

 

[grace5555]

Hey, Evie,

I thought you were being serious and it was an honest question especially considering the changes the forum has gone through in the last few weeks. I truly understand your insecurity about posting - understand it so much i am very hesitant to post myself. I feel comfortable posting in response to you because I know any answer you give back won't be hurtful even if you disagree for any reason. I don't know if that is helpful or makes sense, but I wanted you to know you are not alone.

Grace

 

[Grama-Herc]

Hey Hon

I feel some how a little protective of you because you helped me in trying to understand the mind of my daughter while she was still missing. You helped me so much in gaining insight into her heart. Don't ever think you are an idiot. You are far from it.

 

[Nicolette]

especially considering the changes the forum has gone through in the last few weeks.

Just an observation, but before Christmas the forum, IMO, seemed to be more about being "clicky" than about discussing the issues of PTSD. The recent changes, again IMO, seem more positive as there is a lot more PTSD being discussed and less garble. Dare I say much less bitchiness?! :rolleyes:

Since the changes the 'emotional' nature of the posts I have read have been more based on the issues at hand rather than underlying issues as taking sides. More threads have stayed on topic compared to prior to Christmas.

My point? Well, even if change is good it can be unsettling to most people and takes time to adapt. Evie, I agree that you are being hard on yourself and remember that the forum has changed as well as your personal situation. Sometimes this means people may not correctly interpret a person's post due to no other reason than everyone is trying to re-establish a norm.

From personal experience too, if I have a lot going on which is stressful, what may normally be a simple comment by someone can be misinterpreted due to my high emotional state.

Now, in topic with the thread, I have changed the topic somewhat but believe it is somewhat relevant. :rolleyes:

 

[batgirl]

I'm not talking about nor blaming the forum. I am happy with the forum's changes. I'm talking about myself, and the fact that I am stressed right now and not thinking clearly. Yes there was one post in one thread that hurt my feelings, but that is only a very small portion of it. The much larger part is my own personal situation, with my brother being deployed and in danger, and that is stressing me out to the point of me having a breakdown. It really has little to with the forum at all, I tried to explain that earlier. Sorry if I gave the impression to anyone that I was complaining about the forum because I'm not.

 

[Nicolette]

I don't think I explained myself well enough Evie as I did not think what you were saying was about the forum but I just noted the change while it was mentioned by Grace (I am guilty of going off topic :rolleyes:).

I do believe your personal situation is very stressful and it is understandable you would be sensitive. Take care Evie.

 

[grace5555]

obviously I proved what i was trying to say, i guess, and will just shut up now...