Quiet: The Power Of Introverts In A World That Can't Stop Talking

[Tanishq]

Hashi, you know there are very less people who will agree when person disagrees with them. Very few, not many can do this. I liked the way you and Abstract are talking here. of course not trying to exclude anyone in this thread. Everyone has shared nice thoughts. But yes, this is the right way to stay united in group. You will have to respect person's likeness and dis-likeness. You have to respect introverted and extroverted personalities. That will deduce the chances of misunderstanding or any other unwanted troubles.

Now I am going in territory of acceptance subject. :)

 

[Tanishq]

Someone who had no social phobia, no confidence issues and no shyness but who preferred to spend a lot of time alone,

Abstract, when I was kid my confidence was high of all time and I was not afraid of anything. But I hated that being clueless state of mind while talking to some group or staying in some groups. I was fine with one on one, but not with all the group. I always felt I need some kind of support or practice. That's true, everyone has got their issues to solve. One simply can't overcome this easily.

I am going for well balanced personality. I have faced both direction. Extravert and introvert.

 

[anni]

Someone who had no social phobia, no confidence issues and no shyness but who preferred to spend a lot of time alone, found large groups tiring and preferred such pastimes as reading and painting to recharge would be an introvert.

Once again, someone takes a concept which I would have blah blah blah'd for 3 paragraphs trying to explain and ties it allll up in a neat little package, thank you Abstract! ( Also, Hashi, I'm having some major, major neurological events out here. If it seems like I'm arguing, please know I'm not? Too whifty to remember! :) ) For someone with zero ego it's odd, also have zero problem in social settings although they do get IEWW for me. That'd be the usual PTSD reasons, they just give me the willies. I frequently WISH I did not love to isolate, for real, only because everyone makes such a fuss over it, must be something I should work on. Anyway, before blah blah blahing my way into a side-track, the quote from Abstract would be pretty much me. I'm VERY certain this forum is extremely, extremely good for me. I don't expect kindness or acceptance when I do stick my head out there. It's been kind of a pattern, not to have that. The last couple of years it's been FAMILY, exclusionary and unkind as a ridiculous understatement. So, for a study on introverts- take one with PTSD, some un-imagined things to be paranoid about, who likes isolating. Being here in the forum is some kind of miracle for me, true story.


Part of the point being that if I'm one of the quiet folks at the edge of a group which contains that lively and kind extrovert, I'm not being quiet because I'm deliberately tossing the energy ball to that person. I'm over there just to kind of hang around people, probably arguing with myself on the subject of leaving early.

 

[JustBe]

Hashi said " I would pay a lot of money to NOT go to that Anthony Robbins seminar!"

I agree! I guess I gave up on this thread back in December and then got preoccupied with family illness'. I'm glad to see others read the book. I still go back to it time to time.

 

[JustBe]

I'm actually ( true story ) an introvert, happy in my own head for weeks and weeks at a time, hate the bejeesis out of social contact, just am good at it when it's necessary. No idea on the planet why it's ok to engage to such a huge degree around here

I often wonder the same thing Annie (about myself)! I often go many days without speaking to anybody.

 

[anni]

Ha! Thank you, Movin' On!! I LOVE this forum, when I have time, it's such a relief to tool around the threads. Ill see members write SO, so many things where I just want to stand up and yell " OMIGAWD, YES! ". Well, I do not since my husband would look at me funny and he's a very nice man but still, it's one of the reasons this forum is plain, old healing in my opinion. You just don't feel like such a fruitbat.

That thing where we do not speak to anybody seems absurd, but my T says is kind-sorta ok as long as we're not deliberately detatching from society and recognize we really SHOULD engage here and there just for plain old saftey. He seems to think there's nothing wrong with being happy in your own head, as long as it's true.

I kind of also find that speaking to folks I KNOW well, or who feel they know me will just be too, too exhausting. Having 'gamed' the whole thing in my head, I don't even try. I'm just not at all a natural b*tch, or confrontational, or pushy. I can DO it, and am extraordinarily 'good' with the snotty one-liners. But why? Just because one CAN engage in this manner does not mean one should, or even return 'fire' when fired upon ( said the Civil War geek ). It makes me feel smudged and dirty, so I know there's something dreadfully wrong with the whole thing, you know?

I'd rather not engage, although it plays Holy Heck with my avoidance issues. Those are NOT healthy, have been getting better for some reason as my 'situations' get worse. No idea why. Anyway, you can sure see I'm not lacking in vocal agility, just kinda happy not using it 24/7 out loud, or even 12/7, much less 1/1/ :)

 

[JustBe]

 

[Abstract]

That is wonderful Movinon! Thanks for sharing!