Rage With People And Get Panic Attacks

[LostOne1985]

Hello All,

I have a really bad rage problem, i feel like i am going to hurt someone. This is just a venting session. I feel like when i am driving or in social situations my rage takes over me. I wonder how do i cope with people. I feel like today some lady in her expensive Mercedes thinks she can just cut me off and it made me real mad which i should have never gave her the time of day. I get so mad my rage gives me panic attacks, i get all red, and shaky. I just want to stop thinking about this stuff all the time and enjoy my life.

I dont want to give people the time of day to consume my energy that can be used for something more positive than negative but just do not know how to do it. I get very irritable unable to deal with people. I was never like this before.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I used to have a very bad rage as well. There is a very good book called road rage which helped me out so much and I also took a anger management class and graduated. It is not the problem it used to be anymore so get yourself some help as soon as you can. I understand about not wanting to give these people a thought. Now when this happens on the road I just say what they just did out loud and keep on going and staying away from them.

You are the only one who can fight for you. I wish you the best in everything. It took courage and bravery to post this and I so relate, but there is hope and healing for you. Do not give up on yourself. You are so worth fighting for.

 

[Friday]

Rage is one way I control fear. If I can act on it? Awesome! If I can't? Well, the fight or flight has to go somewhere. Here comes the boom!

 

[WillyKat]

Yeah, been there. Something that's worked for me, at least somewhat, is to accept the anger and rage as part of me. It has a legitimate source: that being the people that were in a position to help me when I was little and were either lacking empathy, stupid, or just afraid.

It's a little kid's rage that boils up inside. When I accept it as legitimate, the temperature drops a bit. If I'm lucky, I can console my young self and tell him he's safe now (agree w/ @FridayJones that it's about fear), I'm taking care of him now, and I won't let that SOB scare me on the bus anymore.

See, fear and anger are two sides of the same coin. They are very closely related emotions if not the same emotion expressed differently.

 

[Hansgrohe]

My rage tends to be provoked. Usually when I'm near a stressor, I can get really pissed the f*ck off easily. The immediate anger tends to "wear away", but it never fully dissipates as I've noticed. Usually it's still there and if one little thing pisses me off I'm back into full on rage mode. Not a pretty sight. Seriously.

Regardless, your rage sounds dangerous. I suggest finding a therapist if you hadn't already, and find ways to develop coping mechanisms that can pacify the rage somewhat. You have to accept it not as something to get rid of but rather something that's apart of you. Your body is "acclimating" to a new condition.

 

[LostOne1985]

@Hansgrohe i am the same way it sucks and is so hard to let go of my rage, i know it is part of me and i cannot do anything about it. I do have a therapist but havent seen in a while but thinking about going back. I just started up smoking medical cannabis today.