Undiagnosed Reaching Out For Support

[mrsps]

Im sure it must be exhausting being at the hospital so much but please remember to look after yourself as your daughter needs you to be as strong as you can be for her :)

 

[ghotiff]

Such a horrible and difficult situation.

In an earlier post (if I recall correctly) you commented on how you "should" feel. I think there is genuinely no anwser for that and I would guess that over time you will feel a whole range of different emotions. If possible, resist the temptation to judge any of them. Your brain needs to come to terms with this shock and it will try a bunch of different approaches until it can settle somewhere.

Caveat. I'm no expert in any way, it's just my thoughts. Take what's useful and disregard the rest.

 

[stjohn1633]

Thank you for your replies! I do feel s wide range of emotions from day to day or even moment to moment. I feel so glad that she survived, but then I feel devastated that any of this happened in the first place.

 

[shrinkingviolet]

I think it's important to allow yourself to feel whatever emotion you have at each given moment. Holding it in will only overwhelm you more. There is such genuine compassion and kindness here, so please share as needed. Prayers for both you and your sweet baby girl.

 

[stjohn1633]

Thanks so much for all your support last night. I finally went to sleep and slept from 5:30 to 11:30. I can't seem to shake the feeling that the hospital staff look down on me for sleeping. I know it doesn't make sense that they would and they even tell me that it's unhealthy if I don't get sleep. Sometimes I wonder why I feel like everyone is against me when there is no reason why they would be. Sigh... I'm so glad I found this place where I can share my worst feelings without feeling judged. Thanks again.

 

[SabrinaB]

Our minds can get paranoid when we are stressed and lack sleep. I'm a nurse and yes, the staff genuinely want you to sleep and get the care and support you need. Your baby needs you to be well. Lean on the nurses now because you'll have more responsibility on your shoulders once she is home. Try to eat healthy and get as much sleep as you can to replenish both your mind and body.

Prayers and blessings for her full recovery and strength for you to endure this very challenging time.

 

[stjohn1633]

Thanks Sabrina, recovering from burns is such a very long and difficult process. I'm so glad that she will not remember any of this.

My husband is at the hospital with her tonight.

Today, I bought her a book called "on the night you were born". I almost cried reading it because it had a part about listening to the geese as they are flying over, because on the day of the fire, earlier that day, my baby and i were outside watching and and listening to the geese as they were flying over.

I don't know why this had to happen but it hurts so much.

Thank you for letting me share this with you.

 

[intothelight]

@stjohn1633 Welcome and I am sorry to read about your daughter's injuries. You might want to check with the hospital social worker about support groups for parents of burn victims or other related support groups. Having people to share your thoughts and concerns with and especially those who have faced a similar situation can be very beneficial.

 

[Changing4Best]

My heart and soul go out to you, dear. I was taught many years ago that guilt is a tool of the devil or of darkness. I am a believer in God and when I feel guilty, I turn to Him and ask for relief. I also ask Him to relieve my anxieties and He does so. I will pray for you and your baby. I hope that is OK.