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Back when I was working I had all kinds of problems interacting with people- I think a lot of it tra...

I like this approach. My friend uses this. It is a little different with us. We don't technically work for these people, but we need a good working relationship with them if we want to be able to teach their band students during school. I try not to voice my opinions anymore on minor issues unless it is directly harming my students. For example, I had a student coming to every lesson crying because some band moms were slut shaming her and finding fault in everything she did (like holding hands with her boyfriend, which is against the rules). They sort of targeted her. I spoke up to the "nice" band director and he looked into it and improved the situation. I have had to learn to accept that they do not do fair tryouts at this school even if it hurts my students or children. If my kids didn't go to the school, there are a few things that this man has done to me that could be considered slander and I might take it to the fine arts director, but... I can't even take it to the band director and call him out on it because he could take it out on my kids. But for the most part, your advice is good. Avoid them, only speak when necessary and stay under the radar.