Something stands out here, your questioning his behavioral state requires him to look deeper which he might not (Might be a bad guess) be willing to Do. Bringing something to the surface which he’d rather keep under concretefloor due to various reasons. Again no advice, just wondering..
UrsulaLeGuin, a bad advicer here. On this planet since 1980§ , and in a relationship since 2007, knots tied since 2016.. yet human relationships are at times like moving through territory where I constantly clash, anyway that’s another story.I think it's basically about a man just not wanting to change this identity he has for himself.
Looking forward to other people’s replies which will be more helpful.