Relationship Roller Coaster Relationship

[Sweetpea76]

If you have ended the relationship, then end it. Do not go to her any more, do not talk to her any more, block her number. It's not her decision whether or not you break up with her. It is yours. This relationship does not sound healthy for you at all. Involving you in her suicide attempt was heinous.

 

[nursenurse]

I agree with Sweetpea. Quit dithering and cut off contact, if that is what you want to do. No matter what she says, how she may threaten. If the water has flowed under your bridge, then you stand your ground and let her family be her family. Good luck.

 

[Knak]

There are people who look for givers because they are takers. They spot you a mile away. They know your weakness and get inside you and manipulate you. They know what you want to hear and will say it but they don't mean it. They only want a person they can use up. When you are destroyed they will dump you. Yes there are people who do not care about the welfare of others and she is one of them. You are the person who believes that nobody could be so uncaring inside, like I was and am.

I am still being used. I carry out his mission because he manipulates my emotion. I go from feeling safe to feeling I am being torn apart from day to day or hour to hour.

This treatment actually changes your brain and makes you treat other people differently even though you don't know it.

In fact you might be one of them who is using this forum to manipulate the people who respond because you enjoy the attention and keep us all stringing along trying to help and getting nowhere.

On that note I think I will stop reading your topic.

 

[Friday]

Even if you wanted to be together, I'd honestly recommend against it. She needs to work on herself. The whole "we need to work on our relationship"... Um. No. She needs to work not killing herself when she gets upset, or fixating on a relationship to distract from working on herself, and no way in hell has attempting just become the way to "get you back" after you break up... Or to keep you from breaking up with threats of suicide (which can sound charming, by the by... "I'm just afraid of going back to where I was the last time we broke up, I just need a little time, etc.". Full stop. Suicide is not a tool to get what you want. Its not a way to win someone back. It's a hard lesson, but an incredibly valuable one. It's not a game, don't play.