Roommate

[Friday]

Yep. You'll miss his rent money. Whether or not you'll miss his testimony is hit or miss. He personally witnessed, but did nothing to stop it? Is just easily used against you for proving it either wasn't "that" bad. Just as if he somehow ends up testifying for your ex? (I wouldn't put that idea in his head. Either of them.) That you kicked him out for inviting strangers home from the hostel to be left alone with a single mother and newborn baby can be also used to discredit him, as well as that any word against you is now suspect for revenge & spite. So getting rid of him is probably a win/win legally speaking. Making a clean sweep of assholes in your life? Hardly unheard of. Your baby's father abused you. Your flatmate not only said back like a coward and did nothing to stop it, but tried to turn your home into a flophouse for every foreign loser passing through who strikes his fancy? A good attorney will be able to use that you are a mother clearly taking action to protect her child.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I agree with @Friday and I thought perhaps calling the police or sheriff when he is moving out for your own protection.

 

[Casey_03]

@Friday Thanks, I know you're right. It ultimately is for the best. Though I should clarify he didn't witness any abuse, but rather my ex bragging about doing illegal things (credit card fraud, drugs, etc) that I think would be useful to show his character. The two of them were casual friends before the roommate moved in. And the ex lashed out at my roommate just like he did at me; roommate witnessed him randomly bullying people in a hostel and threatening another mutual friend of ours, was shocked by his behavior. Would've been a good witness to have to shoot down my ex's claims that I'm an unfit, unstable mother, while he is an upstanding citizen. (He also could refute my ex's claims that I was drinking and smoking during pregnancy, which my ex said he plans on claiming to get sole custody, and something that isn't true) But who knows, maybe he will cool down and not be angry about this whole thing and still be willing to write an affidavit. It would, after all, be really childish of him to hold this against me when he was in the wrong. Hopefully we can talk it out like two adults.

P.S. In case anyone is wondering why I'm always talking about a hostel, a guy in my group of friends owns a hostel in the city, and a lot of them go there to hang out.

 

[Casey_03]

@gizmo Thanks, I don't think my roommate is dangerous in any way though. That's part of the reason I find this so upsetting -- we had always gotten along quite well, with the exception only of his random house guests. Other than the house guests thing, he was really an ideal roommate. He always offered to help with errands and things around the house. Just sucks that we don't see eye to eye on random strangers staying over.

 

[Neverthesame]

Not very familiar with Ukrainian law, so forgive me if I'm talking bollocks.

If I were this guy and witness to or confidante to a person who has been perpetrating multiple felonies, with enough confidence in my knowledge to swear it under oath. I don't think I'd be keen to do so.

Primarily because I would be very concerned someone will ask the question. "So, Mr. Roommate, when you became aware of Mr. Deadbeat's criminal activities, at what point did you report him to police?"

"Umm... I didn't."

"Oh, why not? You do realise that failing to report a crime, is a crime, yes?"

"Umm... What?"

"Yes, it is. What did you want to say about Mr, Deadbeat's extracurricular activities?"

"Umm... Nothing... I don't know nothing."

Maybe it doesn't work that way there. But I wouldn't be stunned if he flopped over on you, at the worst possible time.

I think Friday's right. You're probably better off with him gone.