Rude People

[0722]

Does anyone else here get very irritated when a stranger is rude to them?

For example, today, I was walking out the fish and chip shop with my pushchair, which have two very awkward steps to push a pushchair down, and this man who was stood smoking his cigarette was watching me, only about 5 metres in front of the door, and he could clearly see I was struggling. It took me about a minute to try and get down these two steps, and the guy sort of started sniggering at me. As I walked past once I had gotten down the two steps, I said "shame you couldn't of helped me seeing as you saw me struggling". He just looked at me but I didn't give him a chance to reply. When I had crossed the road I saw him with his friend who had joined him laughing. Whether it was about me or not I don't know. Some people just have no respect. It ruined my day. (Why do little things do that to me!) but when I got to my Mums work, I saw some of her colleagues and I felt better.

 

[Deleted member 31998]

It is understandable because they don't know your story - They are choosing to feel bigger by belittling someone with their own setbacks. You have your own strengths though; you are able to think objectively and see how others feel from the sounds of it.

 

[Stickler]

One of the best lines I ever read anywhere...a Russian curse:
" May bears dance upon your liver!"
...Followed by a cheerful, slightly axe-murdery grin?

...it's people like that that make me wish I could emit those silent death farts I make...on command.:sneaky: Leaving my mockers in green clouds of :sick:.

I'm sorry the guy was a rude bastard to you. Mobility challenges aren't funny.
Apparently Rude Bastard has no idea how easy it is to end up with one himself. If he did end up with one, he wouldn't be laughing so much, would he?

 

[Forgetful]

YES!!!!! I can't stand them, and they're everywhere. I can definitely relate. I usually hold the door open for people right behind me. Usually they would get the door and say thank you. One time I held it and the person behind me just walked through as did everyone in his family.Noone said anything to me. By the time the 9th person came I was so angry I let the door go in his face and said loudly that it's not my damn job to hold the door for them. To top it off none of them even apologized.

Rude/inconsiderate people definitely can ruin my whole day.

 

[Friday]

<chuckling> House Rule : When is it always okay to attack someone? Defending yourself, someone else, or learning how to fight.

Rudeness = Attacking someone without touching them.

Someone wants to make themselves fair game by attacking me? :sneaky: Bring it.

 

[Ronin]

Depends.

There's rudeness I have a lot of understanding for. There's rudeness I even respect, as it's people expressing themselves the best way they can, and doing something when nobody else is. Wrongly employed strength is still strength.

Other cases? Yeah, they can get lost before they think of it.

 

[Neverthesame]

I would never suggest that you ever actually do this, but...

You could casually walk over to the rude man, take a look about, make sure no one's really paying attention. Then lay your push cart on it's side, sit down beside it and begin shouting.

"HE PUSHED ME DOWN! THAT TOSSER LAUGHED AT ME AND PUSHED ME DOWN! WHAT SORT OF HORRID PERSON PUSHES A DISABLED PERSON DOWN BEFORE CHRISTMAS?"

Watch how fast that sniggering ceases. Hee, hee. :sneaky:

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Rude obnoxious people are a piece of work and are difficult to deal with. I am sorry he did this to you. I think that you did the best you could and I have one word for him, Karma! What goes around comes around.

 

[Gadgie]

In the old days if someone was rude to me, I used to scurry away like a mouse?

Now, I let them have it, both barrels, I let them know that they have upset me. I don't seem to care of the consequences any more. I'm a lot more outspoken now, my fear seems to have disappeared, I have nothing to lose.

I think this started around the same time as my mood swings, I'm the same person, but only now with attitude! Yet, I still have that soppy emotional side.

 

[Bill Dickerson]

Some people have no home training. My ancestors would be spinning in their graves if I was not a gentleman. I grew up in the American South and if you didn't help someone who needed it you got a Denozzo (swat) in the back of your head.

I pity people who acted in the manner you described. They have a hole where their soul should be. I have discovered that G-d did make a lot of a$$holes. If they are rude to me I know that part of them is missing so I just shake my head. They better not let me see them being rude to someone else because they will get a piece of my mind. It isn't pleasant piece either.

I try not to let people who act that way ruin my day. If it was someone who mattered to me like a relative I would care how they behaved. If they are a stranger I know G-d made a lot of them.

The Quakers say.... "Each human being has an integrity that can be hurt only by the act of that same human being and not by the act of another human being."

 

[user27357]

I don't know where or when I heard it but I try to remember it whenever I am confronted by jerks like you described:

"Rudeness is a weak persons imitation of strength".

I am developing a theory that as more and more parents are afraid to allow their children to have adventures on their own in the real world, more and more kids are developing their first sense of independence in cyberspace playing games based on competition and combat scenarios. They naturally learn to assert themselves in this world, just like I did out exploring the neighborhoods and the woods and fields and ponds where I grew up. the difference is the total lack of consequences in cyberspace. The reward of feeling like an explorer and a survivor and having strength is real, but the learning of consequences and developing self-monitoring as a part of survival is lost. We are breeding a generation of children that imitate the extreme strength that they have learned by role-playing in extreme environments in the only way their weak reality bodies and personas can: rudeness.

Pity them.

They will not have the real strength necessary to face life with real limitations like you when their time comes.

 

[Bill Dickerson]

I am developing a theory that as more and more parents are afraid to allow their children to have adventures on their own in the real world

People don't seem to exist in the community and don't appreciate the need to live in one. It seems when something bad happens now instead of helping everybody starts videoing the scene instead of taking action. It's like they exist in their own little bubble. No one seems to be around to smack them in the back of the head and point out you need to help stop the person from bleeding to death not just tape it for youtube.