Sad - Gave up on myself & only make others happy

[Punky123]

I don't know when I gave up on myself. Instead, all we (parts) do is what makes others happy. Very much a learned behavior from the early years of life. We got back on track for awhile, but we never realized it was slowly creeping back. To make everyone happy and never ourselves. Realizing this today in session is breaking our hearts. Building animosity day by day towards my husband but not able to tell him why. The reason: this isn't new and past attempts usually have negative consequences at us.
Not sure what the change will be but our body is torturing us in order for us to change.

 

[Survivor3]

Hi @punky123. Is it possible for you to start taking little steps to do things for yourself? To be kind to yourself? What resources do you have around you where you live that you can utilise?

 

[Friday]

Good on, making changes.