Seeking A Resolution For Life

[igasho]

Hi, dear Nickledoor,

from what you wrote about your growing up, i would certainly say that this is not the "normal" way how children grow up...

When I read your post - you name questions that do make me think a lot, in a way also philosphical questions... I'd recommend a book which found very helpful...

Wayne Kritsberg: The invisible wound...

It is also on emotional abuse and it gives you lots of tools to work on your own story plus a very good questionnaire if you are searching for a therapist...

By the way: I DO think you will find someone who listens to you and help you and I really think it would be a very good idee to seek help! You're on a real good path of growing, i feel...

 

[anthony]

What Bec said... please do not censor yourself here, as it is in your best interest to get everything off your chest without worrying about what another may think. It is up to individuals whether they respond or not... and if a person has only negative things to say, then they simply should not respond IMO. I would just say what you need to say, and like always, take what you want from responses and ignore those you feel are not beneficial to you.

 

[pandora]

I was a bit taken back by what you wrote about harming animals and family members...do you have a therapist to see to talk about these things.....

 

[liv now]

I think you are very brave and courageous for sharing what you have. I have spent a lot of time trying to deal with my dysfunctional childhood and have enormous guilt about some of the things I did. What I have come to realise is that I did the best I could with the limited resources I had available to me as a child. As children we mimic our parents and other adults. I was not aware as a child that some of the behaviour I displayed was inappropriate. As an adult I have more resources and tools available to me, and understand that some of my behaviour was about not knowing HOW to express what I was feeling. No one ever taught me. I had no functional role models. In fact none of the adults in my life as a child listened or were present to me. They were too caught up in their own issues.