Well, three weeks ago he said he was sick with a cold. If he had the flu that could take two weeks to start feeling better. And then work, and his stress.his last text to me was on Thanksgiving telling me he felt like he was going through a depression, that he was sick with a cold, stressing about us, working a lot, needing time to himself and hasn’t felt like hanging out.
I can not tell you how many times I needed to be left alone but well-meaning people who didn't understand my boundaries shanghaied me to go do this, that or the other thing. I was not comfortable. I was not happy. All I wanted was to retreat to my safe space, but let me tell you something. A lot of us sufferers can wear happy masks like a pro. It becomes automatic, after a while.
Yep...drives me crazy
I think you're at the point where it's time to talk to him about what's going on
Sure, why not... :) ask him about his cold, if his brother enjoyed his birthday, the weather, tell him a joke...break the ice. Maybe he doesn't quite know how to go about it, maybe he'll be grateful.