Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this sort of thing, just don't know where else to ask.
To make a long story short, after therapy it was revealed to me that I had Complex PTSD (fawn type reaction) likely from being in a psychologically abusive relationship (she is not diagnosed but my therapist suspects she is a narcissist).
After many false starts I have left the relationship and am currently living at my aunt's place.
My partner and I own a house and I am still paying my share of the mortgage repayments whilst she is staying there. I would like to get the house valuated so we know what it's worth which means we can decide what to do next - sell and split the profits, she buys me out, or I buy her out.
The problem is that she's being impossible to talk to. Whenever I open a conversation about what to do with the house it devolves into her asking questions about me, my health, our relationship, or anything else, until I say something she can cling on to and blow up into a big issue ("you said you were unwell yesterday, but you went to work today!") which usually results in her saying very some nasty things about me (she has called me a "f*cking c*nt", accused me of faking our entire relationship, has called me "thick", etc). Our conversations end with me trying to hold my boundaries but her just manipulating me and making me feel, well, like an evil arsehole.
People I've spoken to before simply don't get it. They say stuff like "stick to your boundaries", but they don't understand how narcissists can blur the lines of those boundaries or manipulate them for their own needs. I'm not bulletproof - I have C-PTSD established from exactly this kind of anger and behaviour so I react very strongly towards it even though I am aware of my reactions. It annoys me a lot that people think I can just switch it off.
I'm not sure what to do next. I don't want to go to a lawyer - I simply cannot afford it - but any advice is appreciated.
To make a long story short, after therapy it was revealed to me that I had Complex PTSD (fawn type reaction) likely from being in a psychologically abusive relationship (she is not diagnosed but my therapist suspects she is a narcissist).
After many false starts I have left the relationship and am currently living at my aunt's place.
My partner and I own a house and I am still paying my share of the mortgage repayments whilst she is staying there. I would like to get the house valuated so we know what it's worth which means we can decide what to do next - sell and split the profits, she buys me out, or I buy her out.
The problem is that she's being impossible to talk to. Whenever I open a conversation about what to do with the house it devolves into her asking questions about me, my health, our relationship, or anything else, until I say something she can cling on to and blow up into a big issue ("you said you were unwell yesterday, but you went to work today!") which usually results in her saying very some nasty things about me (she has called me a "f*cking c*nt", accused me of faking our entire relationship, has called me "thick", etc). Our conversations end with me trying to hold my boundaries but her just manipulating me and making me feel, well, like an evil arsehole.
People I've spoken to before simply don't get it. They say stuff like "stick to your boundaries", but they don't understand how narcissists can blur the lines of those boundaries or manipulate them for their own needs. I'm not bulletproof - I have C-PTSD established from exactly this kind of anger and behaviour so I react very strongly towards it even though I am aware of my reactions. It annoys me a lot that people think I can just switch it off.
I'm not sure what to do next. I don't want to go to a lawyer - I simply cannot afford it - but any advice is appreciated.
