Sex Dreams About Therapist

[Kubash16]

Let’s talk about this some.

Transference is definitely a thing and frankly this subject is super embarrassing for me lol. About a week or so ago I had a nightmare that my T raped me. Not a fun sex dream, and definitely not what I had been prepared for. I emailed T about it cause I know you have to talk about it at some point, then I put it out of my mind and just realized therapy is tomorrow and that’s going to be the number one thing he wants to talk about.

How in the heck do I look at him after that? I’m not worried he would actually do it, he definitely won’t. But I’m super embarrassed.

How did “the talk” go for you after a dream like that?

 

[Ronin]

Think of it as just a dream.

You are about to discuss something imaginary. Never happened. Never gonna. Not reflective of actual events.

It is about as much as if you discussed a dream about plants. With being quite charged, but for you, not for him. It is your distress that is the focus here, and not that dream content. :)

 

[Deleted member 47099]

I never had a dream or a conversation like that, but if I had I would start with:

"I know that...

Transference is definitely a thing

...and I know that my brain is just processing weird trauma memories this way and...

I’m not worried he would actually do it, he definitely won’t.

but I decided that it was the best idea if...

I emailed T about it cause I know you have to talk about it at some point

... and now here we are and...

this subject is super embarrassing for me

and yeah..."

And then I'd let the T do the rest of the work from there :)

:hug:

 

[somerandomguy]

Agreed. Sometimes a dream is only a dream. It's normal for our brains to dream about people in our lives in scrambled-up ways.

I've had really inappropriate dreams about really inappropriate people before, but they were just dreams. It didn't mean I wanted to do the things I dreamed about.

 

[Kubash16]

Oy y’all are right. I’m just overthinking. But my mind is going wild with all the uncomfortable awkwardness that is bound to happen.

I mean I know the dream is relevant to the stuff we are working on so I’m going to try and think of like that but I feel like I’m accusing him. But I’m not. But it feels like I am in some obtuse way.

 

[Ronin]

I feel like I’m accusing him. But I’m not.

You are aware you are not doing anything (and not accusing him of any misconduct), that it would look differently. It is good you mind the truth, and his reputation, and your relationship altogether, but really, don’t sweat it. :) You are not overstepping lines by talking about a dream. Just because something is thoughts about a person, does not make it personal.

 

[Deleted member 47099]

Oy y’all are right. I’m just overthinking. But my mind is going wild with all the uncomfortable awkwardness that is bound to happen.

I mean I know the dream is relevant to the stuff we are working on so I’m going to try and think of like that but I feel like I’m accusing him. But I’m not. But it feels like I am in some obtuse way.

Can you just send him another email saying this, so he can read it before the appointment?
That might help put your mind at rest.

 

[Kubash16]

That’s not a bad idea, I just might.

 

[Kubash16]

Has there really not been anyone on here who has actually had this conversation? Lol am I the only one crazy enough to tell T right away?

 

[Deleted member 47099]

Has there really not been anyone on here who has actually had this conversation? Lol am I the only one crazy enough to tell T right away?

:laugh: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Nah... :P

But time travels slowly on this forum... You won't get more than a few replies per day on a thread... It could take a week before someone says "Yup I had this same situation"...

Patience! :hug: :laugh:

 

[Chris-duck]

Has there really not been anyone on here who has actually had this conversation?

Not this exact situation, back when I was 15 and had a T, I dreamt that I murdered him and told him :laugh: Like I was basically like "hey, so I don't -actually- want you dead, but I dreamt this, and it's probs cos of this.." It went okay. Like he didn't really care much cos I didn't want him dead, same as your T will know it's just a dream too. It matters more how it affected you, and why you think you had the dream.

 

[Cypress]

Years ago when I was in analysis and dream interpretation was a thing, I had a dream that my therapist was trying to hurt me. We talked about it and came to the conclusion that I was having trust issues and my mind was playing out worst fears about what might happen if I trusted him. We talked about it and I got over it. Maybe its the same for you?