Sufferer Sex industry has ruined me

[Renestel]

It's perfectly fine to ask posters questions about why they think they have PTSD. Support doesn't a...

I understand questions will and can be asked, but I feel members especially brand new ones need to be treated in a certain way to where someone saying "you dont RISE to the level of PTSD" can be taken as very offensive and painful to someone thst is very vulnerable right now. We dont know her whole story. Why not start with more questions vs. a question that is loaded with a judgment call. Clearly she put up a wall.

 

[joeylittle]

I feel members especially brand new ones need to be treated in a certain way to where someone saying "you dont RISE to the level of PTSD" can be taken as very offensive and painful to someone thst is very vulnerable right now. We dont know her whole story. Why not start with more questions vs. a question that is loaded with a judgment call. Clearly she put up a wall.

Then perhaps this is not the right site for the OP.

Your opinion is absolutely valid. But we will never say there is one right or wrong way to post. Period.

If there is more to say on the matter, open a help ticket; otherwise, let's stop the derailment.

 

[EveHarrington]

I am familiar with it. Thats why I was here, but I guess I'm just a slut crying wolf. my bad.[/QU...

I wasn't saying those things.

PTSD isn't an automatic result of something bad happening to us. PTSD is a specific disorder that can only be caused by certain kinds of trauma.

It would be unhelpful to tell you that it's PTSD and give you advice from a PTSD perspective if you don't actually have PTSD. Advice that will help someone with PTSD may hurt someone who doesn't have PTSD and vice versa.

 

[Justmehere]

but I guess I'm just a slut crying wolf. my bad.

No one suggested this in any way. A lot of folks are asked that question when they first post here.

An observation: you are very quick to assume judgement when it's not been said.

In many other nations other than the US, where prostitution is illegal, the sex workers are seen as victims. In the US, unlike most other nations, we prosecute the people who get sold in the sex industry, and this perspective it spills out into the culture in the US a bit. The negative attitude in the US towards those who have been in your shoes might be why you are very quick in *assuming* that people are judging your character. But asking if you have PTSD is *not* a judgement or implying you are a slut. Not one bit.

Beginning to recognize the difference between people who are judging you, and those who are actually trying to help out of compassion for you, and letting go of faulty assumptions -- this is all a part of the process of learning to connect with others in healthy ways again.

I'm glad you are going to be looking for a therapist to work with to sort things out.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

The sex industry has a way of taking broken girls and breaking them into such a deep and unique way. I was a child prostitute and was being rented but it is the "gift that keeps on giving" (for a lack of another term). Still, 19 yrs later, I struggle to stay out of the industry.

I agree that being a stripper and having regretable sex doesn't seem to meet criteria A, required trauma to possibilty obtain PTSD. Though you are more speaking about the sex industry and what it has done to you. I wouled seek a therapist. You have issues that needs to be worked out regardless if you have PTSD.

I feel a force field like thing around love. Both loving people and being loved. It is the one thing I want the most and ache for but what I am most terrified of and push away to feel safe again. I don't feel I allow myself to love deeply. I love my family and I say I would take a bullet for people but when my therapist and I kick up the sand around that relationship, the love isnt very deep at all. I have always called myself the unloveable one but I can recongize that as a distorted thought connected with self essteem, self worth, self loathing, and fear. And not feeling safe. Which I think is connected with fear. And so though I can love on the surface and once was in love, I don't think any of it was as deepely as it should be. I hold a piece of me back from everyone. I think so I can quickly pull out and become pretend ok again.

I don't think feeling like there is a "love force field" is abnormal at all. I think its mainly for protection. But, it can be worked with and worked out in therapy. It just takes some time (in my experience) so, going to a therapist, in my opinion, would he a great first step.

Supportive :hug:s!

 

[Ronin]

I really do love in my heart

That's not being unable to love. :) That's being very able to love, and terrified of expressing it. Which is understandable.

From that moment forward, I was changed forever.

Not forever.

Changed once? Means you can change again. To be who you want to be & like & feel comfortable with.

Everything becomes so fragmented.

I know that so much... try to grab the fragments that either still make sense, or that you know what to /do/ with?
(I'm currently at using fragments I know who to ask about. As in yes, shit's distorted so much, but I know how to ask questions, so I'll rebuild from that. So what makes fragments /make sense/?)

I chose them

You chose them, but that doesn't mean you don't deserve the guilt & shame & blame lifting. Easing. Less biting.

 

[talon]

I just feel so lost and alone. I feel like Im being left behind. I feel like everyone around me h...

So you are the only one who as ever messed up made a mistake felt so worthless you don't give a damn . I supported a lady with DID an extreme form of PTSD. Her inner people called her a sex toy / Fxck toy she hated her life of abuse but sought abuse. This was learned behaviour. Being an abused child from a very early age abuse for her was normal . I taught her that the best revenge is to get better she seeking abuse then accusing her abusers. So the abused became the abuser. For every question there is an answer. Truth is you are human and like all humans imperfect. That does not make you a bad person. Time to tell yourself the truth you are not a victim but a survivor and i believe in you

 

[Several_Days]

Hi, Do you have a history of trauma before this incident?

PTSD requires certain kinds of trauma...

The diagnostic criteria in the DSMs is misleading and refuted by the leading clinical and research experts in the field. For example: Bessel van der Kolk, MD who runs the Trauma Center at the Justice Resource Institute.

Complex Developmental Trauma which "doesn't rise to the level" of DSM5 criteria for PTSD, is much more severe and debilitating than PTSD.

Find a therapist trained in working with complex developmental trauma. They are the best suited for managing the complexities associated with traumas suffered by sex workers.

Don't give up. You're worth the effort it takes to find a good therapist. If you think you're with a therapist who doesn't get it or understand you, you're most probably correct. Keep looking.

 

[Friday]

Complex Developmental Trauma which "doesn't rise to the level" of DSM5 criteria for PTSD...

It does, actually. I suggest you revisit the DSM5 and look at requirements for under 6 years of age.

is much more severe and debilitating than PTSD.

That very much depends on the person. There are mild to severe results from developmental trauma (including PTSD), as well as mild to severe cases of PTSD. Now, clearly, if the end result of dev-trauma is the death of the infant/child? Then, yep. Their results are absolutely going to be far more severe than someone who merely ends up with a personality disorder, a trauma & stressors disorder (like PTSD), other disorders, or no disorder whatsoever. But they're also dead. So not much to be done. As for the rest who survived? Whether the effects range from none, to mild, to moderate, to severe... Is going to vary case by case. Regardless of what their disorder is.

 

[anthony]

I supported a lady with DID an extreme form of PTSD.

Lets not talk nonsense please. Yes, trauma is the cause, but they are very different disorders, with no connection whatsoever.

 

[talon]

Lets not talk nonsense please. Yes, trauma is the cause, but they are very different disorders, with no con...

We are here to share and help and bring hope to others is that not important. Do not understand the reaction . PTSD has many faces and many threads Dissociative Identity Disorder is as a result of extreme trauma as a result of child abuse a most extreme form of PTSD . How we deal with trauma regardless of its origins have many similar parallel threads . From my time hear and the responses this is the first time i have had such a reaction. Different journeys they may be but its reaching the destination is what matters

 

[joeylittle]

PTSD has many faces and many threads Dissociative Identity Disorder is as a result of extreme trauma as a result of child abuse a most extreme form of PTSD .

Yes.

And this thread is not about a person with DID. Nor does it necessarily have any grading of 'extreme' or 'not extreme'. This exchange is closed.