Sexual Assault Sexual Abuse V's Ptsd

[anthony]

You have my dear... I would even say with a bit more therapy and time, you may be able to start tapering off them maybe next year or 2012... Bit different for you though, as you are high functioning and run your own company... but then Bob Parsons has PTSD and built GoDaddy.com and runs it. You're doing just fine my sweet.

 

[WonderingWhy]

I disagree with JadeBear not fitting in. I have severe PTSD.

I have been more expressive here, and two other sites than I have ever been. It was a member from the 1st site that led me here. I visit all 3 sites.

It took me a long time to quit lurking and join. I still can't talk in person to anyone including my therapist, but here I can. That's my point, there are likely many others lurking. Your presence could give them the nudge to take that 1st step. You just won't know that until they join & are ready to express themselves.

My 1st baby step was reading posts and realizing I'm NOT the only one whose experienced trauma. I learned I'm not as I believed the ONLY one feeling, weak, ashamed and broken.

Now, I know I have more company than I would ever have imagined. Well that's just my opinion.

 

[jadebear]

Thanks WonderingWhy. Because of what you said, I'm posting again.

 

[WonderingWhy]

I am so glad you are posting again! :) Your posts have added a lot to this sight. You also have to remember many of us this messed up find it difficult to post. However it's those like you who get people like me to see it is possible and give us that little nudge to start sharing ourselves. I am sooooooo happy you are staying. I also want you to know that YOU personally along with CB are responsible for getting me to quit lurking and start writing. If it was only one of you, I can't say that it would have given me the push I needed. YOU DO MAKE A DIFFERENCE! I hope the caps are ok? I really wanted to do anything possible to get you to really hear me!:rolleyes:

 

[krystina]

As far as I am concerned everyone who has been sexually abuse in some type of way belongs here.
This is kind of like a family we help each other out when we have things come up about the abuse that we weren't expecting or when we were expecting in other cases. please help me to help you and me to help you to help me lol;)

 

[WonderingWhy]

Krystina,

Wow, for just joining you summed it up quite well.;)

 

[Blutarg]

I'm glad I found this page because I was thinking of leaving the site. I was feeling that I have all these problems but perhaps I shouldn't actually even be here. It is difficult to just speak about these sorts of problems as all the other problems are there, and yet they are also so closely linked to the sexual abuse. I am glad Jadebear spoke up.

 

[Nyx]

I think we all feel at one time that we don't belong here - or elsewhere for that matter. I know I did. But I think that comes from the fact that sexual abuse victims tend to have low self-esteem. We tend to look at things in terms of "(s)he had it worse than me" or "I'm not worthy of attention/care/letting go". Unfortunately, that is the power of our abusers speaking inside our heads. That is one of the things we must learn to fight, to regain power over ourselves.

Anyway, the most important thing is to take care of ourselves. If that adds up to not being here for a while, so be it. Problem is.. we have to find a replacement for support and not go into hiding..

 

[cherryblossom]

I quite agree. The only important thing to do is to look after yourself. If that is here, with a therapist, or working things out for yourself - it doesn't matter. So long as what you are doing (or not doing) works for you.

 

[Blutarg]

It would appear that that is a normal reaction to the forum (or others - I don't know). I agree that we have low self-esteems and therefore doubt ourselves and also that what our abusers have drummed into our beings tends to stick. What you said about support and not hiding has given me grounds to think, thank you. A typical reaction would be to just can it all and hide away. But there is another part that so wants to heal and find out more if there is more to know. So I think I'll stick around and work it out.