Shocked and confused

[Adam F.]

So after a lengthy discussion with my estranged wife last night about wether we are going to try and work things out or not, she told me not right now. She then told me that it wasn't out of the question but could be 3months or 3 years from now.

I told her that I can't live my life in limbo like that. So she responded that if i want to date other people, then I should, but she doesn't want to know about it.

I have no idea how to feel about this. I feel like there are ulterior motives behind her saying this.

Any opinions or insight qould be appreciated.

 

[Deadman]

Do you want her back?

 

[Esterio]

Hi Adam Thanks for the post
Have you been the supporter in this relationship and do you want her back? Myself I would think if you start to date others that your relationship with her is over. Or it would be for me I am old school one relationship at a time.
Peace be safe

 

[Casey_03]

It kind of sounds like she's trying to let you down gently and reject you without coming right out and saying it.

 

[Adam F.]

Do you want her back?

I did up until that comment.

It kind of sounds like she's trying to let you down gently and reject you without coming right out and...

That's kind of what i was thinking as well but I'm not sure how to feel about it.

Hi Adam Thanks for the post
Have you been the supporter in this relationship and do you want her back...

I am the one dealing with PTSD, anxiety, and depression but she desks with depression and anxiety as well. We had been each other's biggest supporters.

I did want here back up until our talk last night. The comments that were made make me feel like either she is trying to gently reject me or that she is dating someone.

 

[Deadman]

@Adam F. OK then I'll be frank. If I was in your shoes I would read her comments to mean she is already dating other people and won't tell you about it as long as you don't tell her about who you are dating. She is giving you permission to see other people so she doesn't feel guilty about what she is doing. Its a sort of reciprocity thing.

 

[Esterio]

I am the one dealing with PTSD, anxiety, and depression but she desks with depression and anxiety as we...

I'm sorry you are loosing your supporter and the one you have supported but it sounds that way to me. It is a hard thing to accept that it is over and PTSD just complicates it. the way you feel about her comment is the one I would go with. I am sorry for your traumas and break up. Glad you found us so that maybe you will not feel alone in this. Welcome
Peace be safe

 

[Friday]

I have no idea how to feel about this. I feel like there are ulterior motives behind her saying this

So if I said those things? That's exactly what I would mean.

Does she have a history of ulterior motives & saying one thing but meaning another?