Sister Told Mom About Dad Sexually Abusing Me

[littlelostchild]

@jmni you have read the landscape completely. The news did open a Pandoras Box for my sister, thankfully, she is seeing a therapist. This has completely thrown her as she is a very black and white thinker. I hope the therapy will help her. Great idea to ask her not to tell me about any more conversations (she had previously told me that mom told her I was a liar - not easy to take). Thank you for your insights.

@Recovery4Me I do need to nurture my own little me - I really needed that reminder right now. I had stopped working with her and it is important, especially right now to go back to her. And I was/am a totally different mom to my two kids. I protected them from my dad, love them and would move heaven and earth for them. Thank you for reminding me about important work I need to do.

@GWhizz it is tough keeping such a secret and she eventually asked outright, so I felt I owed her the truth. She does want to support me even though she is struggling right now. These situations are so tough. Thank you for your caring.

 

[littlelostchild]

@Springer80 thank you for your encouragement. Yes my sister is supporting me, and I her. Mom is just mom. She has always been self-centred, so why did I expect her to be different in her old age? Just a fantasy, I guess.

@JEKBreatheandBelieve yes, a phone call would have been what a caring parent would do, but she traded me (and maybe my sister too) for a very nice lifestyle. Sad. Thank you for your caring.

@scout86 I think I am getting my head around my mom being a lost cause. It is true. She was never there for me, but it just never sunk in until now. Than you for helping me to really gain greater understanding.

 

[littlelostchild]

@Lucycat I think letting go will be the key. For me, first I will need to get angry and sad, but I totally see letting go as the ultimate way to peace. Thank you for pointing toward this path.

@KwanYingirl I am so sorry to hear about that. It is tough to understand how the women who allowed us to be assaulted could live with themselves. I can't understand their mentality. Thank you for your caring.

@RussH I don't understand how men can abuse their children either. He used to try not to be able to see my face, I guess that made it easier. I know he was sexually abused by his dad, which doesn't excuse it, but does help explain things a little, so he kept the cycle going. Thanks for your caring.