Slash your tyres kinda woman

[Justmehere]

Was this against someone in law enforcement? Does your experience in law enforcement make it difficult to go to them or other authority figures for help?

Whoever you did this to, they sound like a jerk. I don’t condone what you did at all. It put you in harms way by risking legal consequences and etc. It also doesn’t really seem like it has resolved your misery much. They were a tire slasher and now you see yourself as a tire slasher. You have identified with the perp (many sufferers do that to some degree) - but you are so much more.

(There are also all the other reasons why it’s not a good option - others have been over those reasons.)

I’m wondering what brought you to the point in your life where the only way you felt you could have justice was to take it into your own hands.

 

[shimmerz]

Closing this down...

Good plan. Not because the topic was of no value, but the topic wasn't created to search for a more constructive way to handle anger/rage.

I think it is important to recognize that anger turned outwards in a way that held no responsibility on the part of the rager, led most of us to suffer with PTSD. Those actions destroyed many of our lives.

I find it fascinating that the OP has no connection to this at all. This isn't actually the audience to be looking for support and validation for destructive actions and being all gleeful about it.

My suggestion for most of us - those who turn anger inside and outside in inappropriate ways..... anger management counseling or groups. Because it is true, we are absolutely, in this society, not taught how to properly and effectively deal with our anger.rage.

 

[Barberian]

Slashing tires.

I know two people who were badly injured by tires exploding. One was a young lady in my squadron who didn't understand/know what she was doing and overinflated her tire until it blew up. It broke her arm in several places and broke two ribs and cracked two more, she got a minor concussion, not to mention all the bruising and such.

The second I didn't really know, it was a youtube vid of a tire slasher. Basically, the same thing happened to him as he slashed a tire. The tire exploded, badly injuring him.

Summary: a good way to hurt or kill yourself is to slash a tire. You may get away with it several times, but sooner or later, you won't. It is simply a game of Russian Roulette. A tire can have the explosive potential of half a stick of dynamite.

I could go on about the rightness or wrongness of slashing tires, but it has been covered in the above posts. Question: what is the summary of others on this forum thread?

 

[Abstract]

Hi @Xena
I can tell you are possibly feeling picked on but I really don't think that's the intention. Remember too this is site very geared at recovery not just a public forum which is a platform for venting. That means people will ask questions if they think what someone is doing isn't good for them or others.

Its good to hear more details about the context this happened in. I think if you posted about this situation instead of your first post you would have received a very different response. People who don't agree with dealing with it that way still wouldn't but there is a lot more that you are saying here whether you realise it or not

You aren't saying what you did. You are proudly stating who you are. A Slashing Your Tires kind of woman. You are claiming an identity with that statement. If you want to claim that as your identity then that must mean you see that identity as doing something for you. I wondered what that was. Is it protective. That scary woman who slashes tires. Is it strong. I feel strong because I slashed those tires. Is it a ward off identity. Keep away from me.

The trouble for me is that I actually don't think anger acted out like that looks powerful. Not to me anyway. If I was a bully I would get some satisfaction that I got to the person if they responded like that. Acting out like that? I got to you. You are out of control and I got you to do that.

I also think any unhealthy expression of anger doesn't help calm or heal us ultimately. Bottling it up and denying it is unhealthy and doesn't help but I was fascinated when watched some research on anger expressed at the other end of the spectrum. They looked at both. The people with rage default acting out actually had higher amounts of anger and rage longer term. It become a bit of a habit in sense. It didn't actually get rid of it. I was shocked at the time as had been under the impression it would be very effective at reducing it.

Lastly I do think violence can attract more violence. Sometimes violence comes around no matter what of course as those of us on here can attest. But I do think surrounding oneself with violence attracts violence. Rage escalates rage. It sounds like you definitely deserve and need to have less violence in your life.

 

[Deleted member 44579]

Ive closed.. This..... Shut down... How do I remove this??

 

[Deleted member 47099]

Maybe ask a moderator or @joeylittle to lock the thread for you? I'm not sure...

 

[digger]

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