Social Life?

[silkleaves]

I like the concept of Meet Up... Its a site where you can find groups with similar interests to yours, and just be able to meet up in a social setting to be able to do that thing you're interested in with other people in a no pressure setting. There's something for everyone, like cooking meet ups, arts and culture, like to go to museums or theatre performances, etc etc. I've been on that site for yeeeears! And have only ever been to one meet up, for a group interested in Independent Movies. Yes, I chose that because I wouldnt have to actually talk to anyone LoL!

But it was nice, I had a great time, well..as much a great a time as you can have with others when all you do is say hi, then spend the next two hours not having to talk to anyone, then saying bye. But I still only did it that one time.

There was a PTSD meetup group that I joined for people to get together, there were a couple dozen members, but crazily enough, there was never an actual meeting planned. I wonder why... :bag::laugh:

 

[marylouise]

@scout86
Too bad about the dog park idea. I always thought that would be a nice way to meet people. I favor people with dogs :) plus it seems pretty low key. How do people meet others then in your community (besides dancing?)? What about volunteering with animals? Maybe at a shelter?

My close friends are scattered now too, but I find it's nice to interact with new people and see friendly faces once in awhile. It doesn't have to mean that those new people will become my BFFs. Lately, I've been enjoying getting to know people at my U.U. church.

I met my husband at a book club. I went not knowing a soul. He and I both stopped going soon after that first meet since we agreed it was kind of lame, but by then I'd gotten involved with something else he introduced me to. I think you just have to "show up" (in the 12 Step sense) to these things if you want to pursue a "social life". Some experiences will be lame, but some will be great and may lead to new experiences or relationships.

@silkleaves
I've enjoyed going to MeetUps and just hanging out with open-minded people, even if I don't see them again. It's a way for me to indulge some of my weird eccentricities with other interested people and to go places I wouldn't otherwise. My experience has been mostly that people are friendly and nice, since they decided to show up to a group where no one knows each other already.

 

[silkleaves]

Very true @marylouise, it's noncommittal too... go if you want, don't go if you don't want...no one is let down or out of sorts if you don't show up, but happy for the company if you do. There's really no pressure in the meetup groups, that I've been able to ascertain anyway.

I don't know why I only went to that one meet up. It was a great time...every so often I check out whats going on and think about going to more of them. I really should.

 

[scout86]

I looked up Meet Up, That's amazing! I had no idea. There aren't a lot of things very close to me, but I might keep exploring. The more I looked at it, the easier it got to talk myself out of it. Which, I suppose, is part of the problem.

@marylouise , I like the idea that you and your future husband met at a book club that you then quit because it was lame!