Sorry Everyone

[cherryblossom]

I have to be totally honest and say that I never taken any notice to those little green buttons. I didn't even realise what they where until I read this post and did a bit of poking around the forum.

I can understand both sides too. I understand how members would want to feel they are helping others. Personally, I don't feel wise enough to 'help' others: maybe that's why I've never noticed the rep thing before. So, in that respect, I'm not interested in my own rep points.

However, lots of members here have helped me, and I've never clicked the button. But, now that I'm aware of it, this is something I'll consider in the future.

Thanks for bringing this feature to my attention. I don't think there is any need to apologise though. It may sound selfish, but I guess we all do what we can to survive. Sometimes that is giving, sometimes it is taking. I hope that some day things will improve for me, so that I can do more giving and less taking... but in the mean time, I'll listen to any advice that is offered!

 

[pandora]

Wow.....I didn't think this would cause such a discussion.

I understand both positions and in my case I am very alone and isolated and feeling like I helped someone and actually telling them why or just acknowledging REALLY helps me.....in return the times that i have felt supported I might not be here without this forum. Sorry if i offended anyone. I also feel like sometimes with my nursing background..I really am making a positive difference. Not working and not getting positive feedback has really taken my self esteem and I am still trying to find it. So I guess it is all about different people and different personalities.In my case this was helpful....but everyone lives very different lives.

 

[Grama-Herc]

Pandora

We are so similar in our feeling, emotions and circumstances that it is frightening. I totally get the needed to feel like you have some how, in some way helped some one.

For a long time all I did here was take. I remember the feeling the 1st time someone
said thank you to me for something I had said. To know I had actually helped some one, even if it was just a smile I caused.

It is actually healing to know you helped some one. It is a validation that you do indeed exist! ! !

Sometime back I got into a huge "todo" here about the same subject. In fact, it caused quite a stir. I, like you, had no idea it would cause such a stir. But, you know me-----I love to stir the pot.

Yes people a here to heal. But isn't interaction with others part of that? But I am rambling so anyway, that's my 2 cents

 

[tude]

Grama-Herc,

Thank you for clearly making me aware how important it is for you and others to feel helpful to people. I did not realize how much influence one's 'reputation' has on someone's self-esteem.

Although I will not give any value to the green dots, I wanted to tell you that I can acknowledge that others do place value in them.

tude

 

[pandora]

Thank you grama Herc......and no harm done Tude.