General Supporter Rage?

[PTSDMama]

It's tough and all things mentioned are so, so important - including humor. I can remember several occasions where I've looked up at my husband while our son is raging and have said, "there's no one else I'd rather be doing this with than you."

hang in there!

 

[timetorecover]

I love slamming doors. Really. It is Oh So Satisfying. But now I have a five year old - and if I slam doors when angry... she will too. So ALAS - no more door slamming for me:(

My Husband came home with a boxing punch bag and a pair of gloves. He was so fed up with me banging things. Not the same, I miss slamming doors!!

 

[ProudWife99]

In the course of our marriage, my husband and I have become professionals at fixing doors. A year ago no door was safe in our home. We have had to buy, cut, stain, and re hinge at least 6 in our time together (both his fists and my feet). While we were house shopping last week I mentioned that I didn't like the doors. He replied with "Good news is we know how to fix those." :) At least he has a sense a humor about it. I try not to slam doors too, but sometimes it just feels so satisfying.

 

[Trembling]

Well, I fully understand all of you, right now I feel like screaming and hitting something, but I m in a hotel room - would not be that good I guess ;)

The last time I tried to smash the last bottle of wine in the sink and it felt sooooo good, BUT, this freaking bottle did not break, which made me even more angry!!!!! Good quality these days!

 

[Mellavogue]

Thank you so much everybody, I thought it was just me! We have re-hung so many doors in this house I have lost count. And I am the usual culprit, not my sufferer. Sometimes it feels like it's the only way I can vent my fury, those times when I just want to scream "NO MORE!" I have gone through my fair share of glasses too... love to slam those things down on the table (oops), and mostly when there is a breakage I am trying to control the anger, now thats scary. Much pent up rage.

But today, a culmination of many weeks of trying to deal with the same issue, i just cried and cried and cried. I am nearly at the point where I don't even have the energy to get angry anymore.

 

[Pale Warrior]

Hey Mellavogue, sometimes you have to let the tears flow.

(((((HUG)))))

 

[Eleanor]

(((((((((Meliavogue))))))) Tears can be more healing...

 

[Mellavogue]

Feel much better today, you guys are right, a good cry did help. Got to stop the self-talk in my head that says "you have to be the strong one," or my dear Mum's words "no use crying over spilled milk." Minimalising my own truth and experience is self destructive. I am going to book myself in for a good cry with myself now and again, when I am alone, today all the anger is gone.

Thank you everyone for hearing and the responses while I was "having a moment" :barefoot:

 

[Eleanor]

Amen, MV!

 

[ronnalee]

Nearly 20 years ago when I was unaware of my pain, I learned to process it. These days, I am comfortable enough in my own skin to permit myself to have tears. I feel so much better. I am taking good care of myself. Being able to do this is so handy! Blessings to you. :whistling:

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Big Hugs!:)

 

[SeekingSerenity]

Tears are very good....

(((((((((((mellavogue)))))))))