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[Deleted member 33287]

I am here because I felt I had found my best friend and love of my life till she told me she has been raped and has ptsd. Ever since that day things haven't been the same and some reason her seeing me sets off a trigger. She has pushed me away and we have gotten into bad arguments and fights. Not a day goes by were I don't feel guilty or I don't scream and cry how I want my best friend back. I am here to learn about ptsd, be the best friend I can be and get my friend back.

 

[Zanshin]

Welcome and good luck to her on healing and you on being there for her. Remember to take care of yourself at the same time, PTSD is not an easy journey...

 

[Seasounds]

Welcome! I hope you find good support here, like I have.

I'm sorry for losing your best friend. You have done nothing wrong. In fact, you did everything right.

Speaking for myself, I go in phases of being able to relate to others, and then not being able to relate to them. Early in my PTSD recovery, I can remember that if a good friend knew secrets about me (which I felt compelled to tell them) I did have a harder time trusting them, since in my family of origin, the secrets were used as against me. Hence, I avoided them. (It is not like anymore.)

With that said, who knows if your friend is like me or not. Either way, let your self-esteem be supported by people who enjoy you, and by knowing that you are a good and caring person.

t took me some time before I did enough healing and could trust friends to be friends. Knowing that, I would recommend taking a back seat, and let your friend contact you, when they are ready.

 

[intothelight]

@Statsattack Welcome!

 

[EveHarrington]

Welcome to the forum. :)

I think your best friend may come back, but it's important to realize that the PTSD side of us may always be there. It's important to be able to accept all sides of a PTSD sufferer.

 

[Deleted member 33287]

Welcome to the forum. :)

I think your best friend may come back, but it's important to realize th...

I've learned so much from studying this forum and articles online about ptsd/ rape survivors. If we are meant to be friends again I'm more prepared and emotionally mature to make it work

 

[The Albatross]

Welcome, glad you're here. There's quite a lot here that is assistive.

 

[Deleted member 28403]

Welcome to the forums :hug: I hope this place helps you. It's very useful because of the bulk amount of people who feel similar and understand. There is a lot of advice and support to be found here :) I hope that this amazing community helps you as much as it helped me, reading all the similar stories, and learning a lot along the way. Hugs if you accept :hug:

 

[Deleted member 33287]

Welcome to the forums :hug: I hope this place helps you. It's very useful because of the bulk amount of...

I'll never turn down a hug. This place is by far been the most helpful in understanding her struggles and what's she's thinking

 

[Milo's papa]

@Statsattack, welcome to the forum. As a supporter myself, I can tell you there is no better place to learn about PTSD and how it affects the ones we care about. Keep reading the different forums and hear some of the stories of the lives these brave and wonderful people have survived and are now rebuilding. It will do wonders if you and your "best friend" find each other again.

Take care for now. If I can be of any help, just say the word and I'll do my best.

 

[Deleted member 33287]

Thanks every day has just been hard and confusing and nothing adds up. All I want is my friend to be there for me but she can't because I always trigger her and she pushed me away.

 

[Milo's papa]

@Statsattack ,it is possible that she just is not in the right space for a relationship right now. I know that is hard to hear. Give her some time and space and maybe she'll come back. Just prepare for the worst, she may never come back. Sometimes it just works out that way.

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. It is obvious you care a great deal for her.