Sufferer Survivor Of Fatal Accident. Need Someone To Relate.

[Emily The Strange]

Hi there.

I'm new to this site and have been browsing through the introductions and came across yours. Such a powerful and tragic story. I'm so sorry about you best friend and sorry that you have been left emotionally scarred.

3 years ago I was involved in a fatal car crash and have been pretty messed up ever since. The man who died I did not know but my boyfriend was badly injured. I cannot begin to imagine how it must have felt for you to have lost your best friend but I can somewhat relate to the loss and the " it could have been me" feelings. I often sit and find myself crying thinking about what happened and how I could have prevented it from happening but also that I wish it was me that had died and that the cyclist could have survived. I think about how I came out pretty much unharmed. Life just isn't fair.

I think what I'm trying to say is that you are not alone, although my experience is vastly different to yours, and there are many people you can talk to and vent your feelings. The more I talk things over to myself and those that care about me the easier I find it day to day. The pain won't last forever and the memories won't fade, they will always be there but you can move on and you deserve to do so. I hope you find comfort in talking to people here and that you can move on to great things soon.

Take care.

Emily

 

[AdisheartenedFather]

Hello all,

It is amazing to me on how fast life can change. One second it is the same daily routine and the next it is completely different. I registered here mainly because I wanted to talk with anyone outside of my immediate family that may have gone through something similar and can relate. Someone whom I may be able to conversate with.

Just over 2 days ago my daughter, my son, my wife and I decided to go to a local festival. My daughter had been worried about her fiancee as he went to the casinos in Louisiana the day prior. We finished at the festival and went back home. Just after getting back home, my daughter became very concerned as her friend texted her to tell her that my son-in-law had been in an accident. Also that he was in a hospital 45 minutes away. My daughter called her friend to give her a ride to the hospital. I was trying to call various hospitals to find out where he was. One lady told me that if he was in the emergency room then it may take some time to get him stabalized and entered into the system at whichever hospital he was. I told my wife and daughter to get in my truck, so that I could carry them to the hospital to see how he was.

We took off for the two hospitals that were nearest to where my daughter's friend had told us where my son in law was.
We went to both hospitals and couldn't find him. At the second hospital, my daughter got a call and they asked to speak to someone else. She gave the phone to me. I was told that no one in the vehicle had made it. I was devastated to hear that and to have to tell my daughter too. Things have been extremely depressing. To be taken from this world so quickly. I really don't even know why I am posting here. I am tired of crying. I am tired of seeing my daughter, wife and son cry. I feel powerless to make them feel any better or even myself. I love that kid, he was way to young to die. I pray to God to give mine and his family strength to carry on. It is crazy that he and his three best friends were all killed at the same time.

 

[wcdean]

I was involved in a fatal car accident 14 years ago; still can't shake the images from my head. Both myself and the other driver were alone in the vehicles but the sight of him and his injuries will never stop haunting me. He was only a few feet away from me as I watched the EMT's cut him out with the Jaws. I don't know why I made it and he didn't, I don't know if I will ever stop blaming myself. Some days are better than others but the anniversary was a couple of weeks ago and it seems to have brought everything back up as usual.

 

[May1321]

Hi aloha...

I'm not sure if you are still a part of this forum or how you are doing...

I started on here a few years ago as a supporter to a military vet... in September 2013, however, a year after truly ending things with my ex, my current boyfriend and I were in a one car roll over. We were both thrown from the vehicle killing him and not me. Like you, I was wheelchair bound and despite all the injuries and surgeries and 3 months bedridden in the hospital which included time in the ICU, aside from needing a wheelchair usually for long distances like going to the store, I am doing better than expected and unless you saw my scars, you wouldn't be able to tell.

Now I'm getting to the meat of it... the emotional and mental. I think I've moved passes the constant sadness but I deal with guilt and anger a lot. Just wondering how you are healing and if you've found anything that helps you through.
Thanks... May