Tell Me The Truth

[Notsowild]

I can't take anymore of my manager. She constantly stresses me and is very triggering. Only thing is she's trying to be so nice (yuck) now. She all super sweet to all the other girls. And they all fall for her phoniness. She tries with me and I usually ignore her compliments. Because I know it is not her. She is just doing this because she got in trouble for her verbal abuse and of course the human rights violation.

My question... Should I have to be nice to her because she's trying so hard. I can just stand her phoniness. I know she can't stand me because of all the trouble I have caused her. They haven't fired her yet- I wish. Is it just me? How do you or do you forgive your abuser?

 

[illusionist]

If I can see it as their self gain to change....I don't. I will speak to them when I have to but I totally detest phonies. I have a hard time with compliments at the best of times but in that situation I really would not have a problem totally ignoring it.....in fact I'd enjoy ignoring it as it would put her mind in a questionable situation.

 

[Notsowild]

Can't understand why all my co-workers are falling for this phoniness. It angers me alot that they suddenly forget how she treated us.

 

[Friday]

Can't understand why all my co-workers are falling for this phoniness. It angers me alot that they suddenly forget how she treated us.

Most people in a work place aren't emotionally invested in those relationships... They simply want XYZ behavior to stop. Or start. Depending on what it is.

They also weren't the ones who "caused her all this trouble", even if she was treating them as badly, they didn't make a stand / fight for change. So they are neither as emotionally invested in her staying as those who fought for her removal,would naturally be, nor do they need to fear reprisals in the future. They can simply look at the behavior being "gone". Without their having to do anything about it.

 

[Notsowild]

Excellent response @FridayJones... Never thought if it that way. It's just so sick to watch everyday. Her and another girl hugged goodbye. I almost barfed and thought how inappropriate it was.

Oh also another girl who she harassed so much quit the other day. I told her not to give the manager the satisfaction but she quit anyway. She said she could never work with this manager again. The manager told my friend who works there she was so happy she quit. That angered me even more. Also this girl was an ally for me. Now she just has to get rid of me and she be ecstatic. Won't give her the satisfaction!!!