Texas trigger - hoping harvey wipes it off the map.

[Opud]

Ok. In the real world I know that just because I had a horrific experience in Texas doesn't mean all of the people who l...

DITTO here, I feel the same way and have openly voiced my dislike of the existance of Texas. Was gang r.... in a dallas shelter there, no help could be found anywhere. Unless your missing a body part or feeble mind you cannot get help in that state. (sorry I can't spell the word out, triggering.

 

[Vudu]

I plan to read the article on anger when I have time to put it into perspective of my own circumstances...and I'm not quite ready to.
I have an anger, that I believe should be a rage...and I've never allowed myself to feel it or allow it into my consciousness.
I assume that it is still there? It should be!
His death in our lives did not make a difference. I felt nothing.
It was good for me to read all of these responses... I could identify with many of the responses and at the very least understood that all were coming from their own points in healing.
Good discussion, never meant to hurt...
"All goes onward and outward, nothing collapses..." Walt Whitman
The sun is shining

 

[Nuni]

DITTO here, I feel the same way and have openly voiced my dislike of the existance of Texas. Was gang r.... in a dallas s...

I guess I could say the same about Illinois? I was raped there. No one cared. I just never thought to attach an entire state to my trauma. I guess everyone else deals with things differently. Like I really can't handle large wooden doors.

 

[Ozoj]

Wow for people going through the ordeal of Harvey and attempting to keep what they can together, this sure is an insensitive subject to post. It's not about what you went through, sure you have an intrusive though- but bloody hell maybe keep it to yourself, especially with members on this forum who are facing this. it's about the people who are no longer in their homes, or those who have lost their lives. Recognise that you are having difficult thoughts, accept them and deal with them personally- why post them on a website which could cause distress to someone else?

 

[Fuzor]

Ok. In the real world I know that just because I had a horrific experience in Texas doesn't mean all of the people who l...

:)
Enjoy your emotions about the disaster! Having an emotion isn't the same as harming someone, right?

Of course you don't wish any harm upon innocent people....that's obvious. However, if it makes you feel good to imagine people who hurt you wiped off the map, I say, "Go for it!"

 

[Nigi]

CHILL. Everyone CHILL. THE OP does not wish LITERAL harm on anyone.

It's along the lines of 'man I could slap the SHIT out of that ass hole for forgetting the ketchup with my order'
No. No one wants to literally slap the shit out of anyone.
They don't want the people of Texas to suffer but its a legitimate trigger. It deserves conversation.

Now. Chill.
Mic Drop.

 

[Udo]

why post them on a website which could cause distress to someone else?

For the same reason we don't use trigger warnings. At any given moment someone somewhere is having to endure hardship for some reason.

This forum is a place to speak. To seek communication with others, to learn to be healthier.
The op is having difficulty with something. Instead of bottling it up, they spoke here. Why did they choose now to bring up an issue involving Texas?
Dunno, I'm not them. Maybe because last week Texas wasn't on the cover or front page of every newspaper and website?

It's up to each of us to be mindful of what stresses or triggers us here, and avoid if necessary.
The op even made the courtesy of making a title that is accurately descriptive of the subject matter.

The op doesn't appear to have meant any harm, nor did they force anyone to read their post. They're just trying to sort out the shit in their head just like the rest of us. It just happened to be a hot button topic. One which we all have the option of not engaging in if it's too upsetting.

There's my 2 pence.

 

[Ujol]

The op is having difficulty with something. Instead of bottling it up, they spoke here.

Personally I think it's rather unfair to shame the OP for admitting that they were having this issue.
I have seen a member who was anxious about just the *possibility* of being a pedophile because (as it turns out) they were having intrusive thoughts. People rallied around that person.
This person deserves the same.

 

[Opud]

Ditto again, I don't want to see people hurt, but the state has been nothing but bad. I would be happy with the storm selectively wiping the shelter of the map in dallas while everyone is somewhere else safe.

I have very strong feelings about texas. I hate hearing it's name, seeing it on the news, its politics, nothing redeeming from my view (cognitive distortion. If it did not exist it would not bother me.

 

[Oviz]

I see both sides...why it needed to be aired by the first person who started the thread and by the poor people in Texas who are affected my the flooding.
When things 'trigger' me, it forces me to work through it and find ways to normalize it.
For some reason, (at times, not always)...seeing a man with a dark beard has caused me to feel stark fear.
I do not know why.
I can guess, but my memory is fragmented when it comes to difficult happenings.
My sister remembers a "happening" that involved me...we were very young children.
She remembers liking our uncle and then hating him and feeling like she had to protect me.
No matter how hard I have tried, I do not remember anything.
I also had a "happening" with a co-worker when college age...
They both had a dark beards.
Time does eventually heal, I hope! I trust!
Now my sons grow one every November...and they still get a hug.

 

[Onu]

It's a super common thing with trauma. Our brains link wearing a pretty dress with rape, or men with danger to kids, or a certain race, or job, or religion, or nationality, or whatever... Are something to fear/hate. Flight/fight. All cops are pigs. All niggers are criminals. All c*nts are whores. All men are assholes who only want... All this, all that, all the other. All of Texas can die screaming. It's a huge series of cognitive distortions, tied up in emotional reasoning, and is usually as ugly as it is wrong. And? It happens to most of us.

Help breaking out of it? Means severing the connections trauma has seared in.

Places to start?

Primary Cognitive Distortions (negative Thinking Styles)
Negative Thinking Styles Part II: Reframing Negative Thoughts

 

[Tosufo]

And the subsequent poster is also struggling. AND I think we've all been victimized enough. Thus, I find your post, ac...

Yeah but the post is about the OP and the OP getting help. Therefore IMHO it's the OP that trumps the replies. If a respondent needs help IMHO it's best to start your own thread instead of taking over someone else's thread and trying to outdo them. Kind of rude IMHO.