Thanksgiving

[Mim28]

I made plans for Thanksgiving. I wasn't going to do anything, but I'm trying to keep things as close to normal as possible. This isn't like me and I feel the more I avoid, the more I am slipping away.
My family has been through a lot this year and they all have their reasons for a low key holiday. I completely understand and I feel the same way.
I was invited by my daughter to her in-law's event, which is low key and I think just what I need. It will be informal and quick and I can then come back home and rest.
I need to start getting back into a normal life. So this year, I will not cook and we will not do the normal things, but that's okay, because it's not a normal year for any of us.
Each day I am trying to do just a little more than I did the day before. the results are so small that they are almost undetectable to anyone but me. but I know they are small steps. Even if it feels like I'm just shuffling..

 

[Gs172003]

I would LOVE a low key Thanksgiving. But that's not how my family works :(

 

[lostforgottensoul]

My family all hates me so I don't see or do anything with family on holidays. My dad & step mom are the only 2 that will speak to me and they currently live with me so we are having a small pre-cooked meal and that's it. Nothing special.

 

[Gs172003]

My family all hates me so I don't see or do anything with family on holidays. My dad & step...

Im sorry to hear that

 

[Missycat]

My family all hates me so I don't see or do anything with family on holidays. My dad & step mom are the only 2 that will speak to me and they currently live with me so we are having a small pre-cooked meal and that's it. Nothing special.

I 'liked' your comment to acknowledge i'd seen it. So sorry that things are not good with your family.
:hug: If accepted

 

[Gs172003]

I 'liked' your comment to acknowledge i'd seen it. So sorry that things are not good with your family....

Sometimes I wish we had more options like fb...I hate " liking" things like that. I hate that you're dealing with that but mim I'm glad you have things going good for you!

 

[FauxLiz]

My family is about 1200 miles away and my son has to spend the holiday with his father even further away. My daughter is going to my parent's house and even though they are all considering taking a trip to somewhere for the holiday when I called to see if they thought about coming to see me I was told I was too far away. I guess my brother's family and dad would rather spend the holiday in a hotel without anyone they know than come see me. Oh well, I am going to make a pot roast in the crockpot and binge watch Netflix. Hopefully that will help me forget I am spending the holiday alone just like I did Christmas last year.

 

[Gs172003]

My family is about 1200 miles away and my son has to spend the holiday with his father even further awa...

Oh bless your heart. I'm so sorry

 

[One step at a time]

Going back to bio-family for this Thanksgiving.

This is an exercise in patience and compassion. This, too, shall pass. I'm just going to keep breathing and sticking to my boundaries.

 

[FauxLiz]

@Zoogal thank you.I really only wish my children could spend the holiday with me. I have a difficult and confusion situation with my family of origin. I feel compelled to stay in contact despite their involvement in my abuse. I am spending the Christmas holiday in the house I grew up in with my family parts of it will be great but most of it I am struggling with how I get through.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I got myself a plumeria soy candle, a deli tray, and a pecan pie. Going to stay home and have a pajama day and watch good movies. It helps to make it very special.

 

[Mim28]

@gizmo, that sounds like a wonderful Thanksgiving day!!!