The 1% thread - What can I / you do, to make our situation 1% better right now?

[ms spock]

Just hanging in there. Wrote two more complaints to the Insurance Company last night.

Trying to have a brain break. .

 

[ms spock]

Going to look for the lost car key. One broke, need to find it. It is possible it has been thrown out. But it could also be in all our stuff in boxes all around the veranda and shed. I will do three boxes.

 

[ms spock]

Going to look for the lost car key. One broke, need to find it. It is possible it has been thrown out. But it could also be in all our stuff in boxes all around the veranda and shed. I will do three boxes.

I will also wash up the dishes. I clean tea towels now.

 

[shimmerz]

I express my trauma through a very deep freeze response. It is a challenge figuring out balance - am I overwhelming myself or am I not doing enough to keep me engaged? I use the wii fit system to help understand where I am in the moment. Then acceptance. I% - to me - is reminding myself that no matter what is happening with me, I am doing the very best I can.

 

[Teasel]

I've withdrawn to reduce overwhelm
Put on an incense stick for sensory regulation
Also been for a walk
I'm journaling to help externalise stuff
I can take a moment to be quiet.

 

[anthony]

Mine is to insert headphones into ears. I have noise cancelling headphones, so I put them in, start playing music and I move - start walking somewhere.

 

[FFnerd]

- Take some pain meds/sumatriptan for my headache/migraine.
- Burn a candle for the vibes
- lay down for the night

 

[ms spock]

Cried and cried. I told B I can't keep carrying the load.

 

[FFnerd]

Cried and cried. I told B I can't keep carrying the load.

Did you feel better after your crying session?

 

[ms spock]

It needed to come out.

 

[notsurewheretoturn]

Mine is to insert headphones into ears. I have noise cancelling headphones, so I put them in, start playing music and I move - start walking somewhere.

Thats something I should be doing, if only to cancel out the noise of my neighbours arguing which is a major trigger for me. My flat was literally shaking over the weekend with them slamming doors, throwing things and shouting.

 

[ms spock]

So I am doing Radical Honesty and saying to B I can't do this anymore.

I am utterly exhausted after the looking after his father with dementia, carrying all the load financially, looking after him whilst he was terribly ill, in and out of hospital, physically, and then mentally ill. He chose not to get treatment. I have had to work around all this and I have worked so hard and I no longer able to carry him and his load.

He also says no to everything I say. It is exhausting.

This is probably a coercive control situation. I feel situation. I feel so ashamed.
Living here is better than living in Dept of Housing with ice dealers. But some days not by much. The dogs killing my pets. My neighbour who had to move out due to being stalked by the other neighbour's son. The son of the dog killers yelling out "Who is going to die" and our dog being baited shortly afterwards.

I kept being told this is a much safer place by my counselor and psychiatrist. But it's actually not true.