The Disturbed Mind - Compliant Victims Of The Sexual Sadist

[Jade-]

I'm trying to avoid this article, but find myself still coming back to it. I'm gonna talk to my T about it monday and get his opinion.

 

[emmat]

The virgin-whore dichotomy (freud called it the maddona-whore complex) in action here. I've been abused by two men that both couldn't cope with the fact real women don't actually fit into the virgin/madonna/mother or whore/bitch/manipulator boxes. They tried so hard to create a reality where all women were nothing but 'evil sluts' mascarading as 'pure creatures' and they did it through abuse, torture and manipulation.

Jadebear - have a read around the virgin (madonna)-whore complex if you want to learn a bit about why some men start thinking this way and feel the need to degrade women in this vile manner.

 

[PetalChaos]

This is completely about my father and stepmother (and my grandmother and grandfather for that matter). They have been together for 23 years. She is also a medical doctor (who topped her class!) and he is an electrician. I feel utterly gutted to know that I'm not the only one out there who's seen this stuff first hand. No wonder I'm so cold on the inside. I hope you all have some peace in your life now.

 

[Jade-]

I wish this article could be deleted. I'm tired of coming back to it. I'm just glad my mom is free, and so am I.

 

[anthony]

Every female should read and know this type of information IMHO.

 

[alixipain]

It reminds me of what I went through by my own parents and family. Still to this day I can not understand why my fathers mom was the only normal human on his side of the family. Its an illness of a double edged blade; meaning you can be one side of the blade at any given time if you, yourself have been a victim. When I meet my first wife I was almost exactly what my father was (It was the only way I knew how to show love) even though I swore to not be like him! We talked about it, but I never realized it was associated to it, till way later. The sadist side came out of me when we would be close with each other. But I never raised my hands to her. Because, again swore I would never be like dad was. I watched my mother get beaten by him so many times I was numb to hearing her cries and screams, just as much as my own. Its why when I see a woman crying I feel nothing. The scary part was she worked as the Counties Human Services Agency, which inturn screwed me, her name was different from mine. I would talk to the councelors at the school, which inturn called human services, which inturn got me labeled as a liar to the councelors, and a rage filled beating later. I learned quickly not to talk about it, to hid the cuts, to hoover in a desk so that I looked as though I was seated but not actually sitting. his belt was leather with metal studs in it. When I hear certain sounds it triggers my memory and I become unfocused on what I was doing at that time.

I wont return to this articial but it needs to stay for those that really need to understand it! Thank you junkie

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Wow. I couldn't finish it...Its just making me scared now.

but like Jade...I will be coming back.

 

[anthony]

It is scary... there are some serious dropshits within this world.

 

[Iron_Angel]

Okay... I skimmed this article and I cannot read it right now as it might trigger me. But thanks for posting it!

 

[alixipain]

It triggered me, but I'm cooped up because of snowstorm and have cell off cause I get barraged by g/f wanting to know my condition, condition of house, which both of us, house and me is not great.

 

[Philippa]

I can't read it just yet. I'm at work and don't want to get upset.

I think I read it once when I first came here..scary stuff, if it's the same story?

 

[anthony]

This article really makes up a set of three,

1. [DLMURL="http://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/becoming-a-compliant-victim.13804/"]Becoming A "Compliant Victim"[/DLMURL]
2. [DLMURL="http://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/the-disturbed-mind-compliant-victims-of-the-sexual-sadist.13811/"]The Disturbed Mind - Compliant Victims Of The Sexual Sadist[/DLMURL]
3. [DLMURL="http://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/the-criminal-sexual-sadist-includes-information-on-compliant-victims.13805/"]The Criminal Sexual Sadist (Includes Information On Compliant Victims)[/DLMURL]