The fourteen day challenge

[KP the nut]

Day 9 and looking and feeling good.

 

[The Albatross]

Day 2 underway and okay so far.

 

[AngelaMarie]

Day one once again. I will try a little while longer but if I am not sure if it will work with the stressors I am dealing with. I do really appreciate you putting this idea in my head, Deb. That's why I won't give up yet.

 

[Helliepig]

This sounds a really good idea. ( I was going to say "fun" but maybe I'd better try it first.)

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Day 2 hurray! I am having a better day. I'm really working hard on not beating myself up. I'm really working on being kind to myself. i will get this. I did not get this way overnite, and I will not get better overnight, oh I wish I could. So impat.:) ient. But today is a great day

 

[intothelight]

Starting with day 1 tomorrow. Been through a bit of a rough patch, but I processed it. Wiping the slate clean, but really each day or each moment can be a new beginning if we so desire.

 

[Helliepig]

Um, tried this tonight and whilst I haven't criticised myself have had several sinking feelings of feeling inadequate or deprived - these are sad feelings more than beating myself up. Does that count? I'm not sure suppressing those would be "positive" as it signifies sadness and pain that needs to heal.

 

[intothelight]

Hi Hellipig,

You should not suppress feelings of sadness or pain as those are issue to work through. What you shouldn't do is tell yourself you are "stupid" or "worthless" for feeling that way. That is what this exercise is about. Learning to let ourselves deal with issues and emotions without beating ourselves up for having them.

It is really to learn when we are being negative to or about ourselves and changing our thinking patterns. It also doesn't preclude honest assessments of our own behavior. For example if I am having a bad day and I lash out at someone, that is wrong and it is only right that I take responsibility for my own behavior. But if I said that I should never be around people because I am evil and just hurt everyone, that would be wrong. It is not accurate and it is negative.

Hope this helps.

Deb

 

[NewDay770]

I like the idea, it sounds hard though. I am in. :)

 

[Daisygirl]

I am back at Day 1 starting today. I made it to Day 10 on Friday, then the negative thinking started. I haven't been able to stop it much, as yesterday didn't go well either. So, I am going to try again and see how I do today.

Even though I am sad that I didn't make it 14 days, I am proud that I made through 9 days. I wouldn't have imagined that I could go that long when I started.

 

[AngelaMarie]

Day 2!:) I feel more positive today. I hope that in the next couple of days the cold will finally ease and I can start walking in the evening with the boys. That should also increase a good feeling in me!

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Day 3 and I am good!:)

The trauma diary is stirring up feelings and thoughts. But I am dedicated and commited to not beat myself up. This is such a excellent challenge, I am learning so much about me and other people. It is very encouraging. Today will be a good day. I am having another lazy day. I can do this. It is restful and relaxing.