The fourteen day challenge

[The Albatross]

New day tomorrow... Day one again... but it's getting better.

 

[Srain]

Is it okay to look and not speak? not let those thoughts pour out into your mind or out your mouth?

I can see where I might go off on myself but instead I noted the moments yesterday and moved away instead of zeroing in.

When does acceptance begin, avoidance leave off, and ignoring mental attacks take place? Does this make sense?

 

[intothelight]

Rain,

I am not sure that "moving away" is avoidance. A lot of the negative messages I send myself have no basis in reality and I redirect my thinking. I don't spend a lot of time analyzing them, because I already know they are distorted and how they got that way. I just am trying to retrain myself not to send myself the messages.

I hope I got what you were saying and that the answer makes sense. I accept that I have negative thinking patterns and I redirect my thoughts when they start.

Deb

 

[KP the nut]

:poop::poop::poop::poop:

Day 1 again tomorrow and it was all going so well.

I stuffed up at work, mixing up buses and keys, so stupid. So I gave myself the 'you are so f*cking useless' lecture, oops.

 

[AngelaMarie]

I made it through day 3. I didn't put myself down for not meeting my goals for the week. I didn't put myself down for being in bed with a headache. It sure would be nice if I could be good to myself like this more.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I lost count again. But I have been positive today. I do not know what day I am on. This having to start over throws me for a loop. I went for a macha frappe,I took the dog, and I got us salads for dinner tonight. The door is open and the heater is off. It is a beautiful day. At least I am aware when I am being negative on myself now. This was a great idea.

 

[Srain]

I appreciate the feedback, Deb, it did help. I'm coming out of my fuzzy-pain so I feel more on track. Day 3 and feeling pretty positive though I can almost touch the anxiety and the sword I want to fall on due to it, however, I have a goal I want to reach this Summer so I'll put the negative away a moment at a time.

 

[Srain]

OMG!! I'm actually at day 4!! Okay, I cheat and DO NOT look in the mirror :cautious:.

But I am taking to heart what was said about understanding the horrible "tapes" are there, I just am declining press the start button.

Oh, wait, I did pepper my husband with a few questions such as "are you over me?" "am I old news?" grrrr is this a start over??? (How quickly that crap slips out!!)

I think it's day 1??

 

[KP the nut]

Tomorrow, I will begin again, I will be strong, I will be positive because today, I am none of those things.

 

[The Albatross]

Today I'm trying to do the challenge via the sage wisdom of Dire Straits... It isn't a steady and continuous "walk of life" sort of thing... It's being willing to roll along like The Bug (sometimes you're the windshield, sometimes you're the bug...)

Day Two... and okay so far.

 

[Loloma]

Yes, I've done 14 days in a row. It's a lot easier for me as I don't have anyone around to trigger or annoy me. Thinking happy thoughts through the pain and planning for the future has kept me stable.

Early in the piece I had one day when I spoke to my ex, and he refused to help me shift. Too busy, his GF wouldn't like it, you know all the usual. Only lasted a couple of minutes and then I thought, you fool why ask in the first place, so got over it quickly.:tup:

Thank you for the challenge Deb.

 

[Daisygirl]

I just found this thread, so count me in. I am on Day 1! Awesome idea, Deb. I didn't read the whole thread just pages 1, 2 and 6, but congrats to everyone trying this! :)

Two weeks sounds like a REALLY long time to be nice to myself, but I am willing to give it a go. :O_o: :p