General The Importance Of Feedback

[Nicolette]

I was just reading something that Jeffreylee posted as a reply to SpecialK in relation to amounts of medication being taken by her ex boyfriend.

For me, Jeffreylee made a very important point, that while on medication, he may not be the best judge of how he is coping and said that the people around him may be better able to assess him or assist a doctor with feedback about reactions to medications.

While I think what Jeffreylee said was very poignant I think feedback can be applied across the general PTSD and be beneficial for the Sufferer. I remember reading something Anthony posted where he said that me telling him "he wasn't be really nice" made him realise something was wrong and then he was able to go and work it out making it better for all concerned. I am not saying sufferers are stupid and don't know what is going on but I am saying it is often easier to sit on the outside and see in.

I think giving feedback to our Sufferers is important. What about you?

 

[Frankie]

Hi Nicolette,

I totally agree with you ! When I was with my exbf I often told him things to make him realize how he was acting, and often he didn't realize himself that his actions were hurting the ones around him or hurting himself.

And he was always glad I gave him my feedbacks....maybe not right away :) but I did sense when he would start thinking about what I said.....and he always, well ok...often...lol...came back to me and said "thank-you for telling me". This in turn often enabled him to go see his therapist and work out a better plan of action, whether it being for his sessions or his medications.

Another point to make is for the carer to keep a good contact with all professionals working with the sufferer.

We should never "baby" the sufferer but tell them in a caring and fair way what we see. Sure, it is so much easier to not say anything and this is in fear of being rejected, being told off or being shut off but I always believe that honesty and talking is the way to go.

I talk to many here who have ptsd and I often hear that I make them think with what I say. They also say that making them think is not always easy for them but they come to realize that there could be something wrong and they could make it better.

Frankie

 

[Grama-Herc]

Feed back is important in every situation and all walks of life.

My daughter tells her hubby something that has stuck in my mind ever since she first said it to me.

And I quote "How can I fix something when I don't know it's broke"

That has stuck with me., and pretty much says it all