The Last Words I'll Ever Hear?

[scout86]

When you say that you're technically the person responsible, do you mean she's actually designated you as the person responsible? Did she give your contact info to her caretakers? In that case, I imagine you'll hear from someone if she dies. There are other ways she could have chosen to handle arrangements though. She could even have designated someone else and not told you. Was she in a hospital, last you heard? I'd do, you can call there and ask for info. (I've done that too.)

I'm sorry this is such a mess! I wish there was a way to be sure that kids all get adequate families! (BTW, you seem pretty nice from here, no matter what some of you biological relatives think.)

 

[Fadeaway]

I am her only blood relative unless you count my uncle who has the IQ of a troglodyte from 50 years worth of heroin addiction. She has no caretakers. She would die before going into a hospital. She sees that as weak. But she has had congestive heart failure for a while now but still refuses to eat anything not dripping in lard and salt. Last I spoke with her when she told me that, she could barely breathe and was on oxygen. and she is the type who could be on their death bed and deny being sick. So for her to say that...

So yeah, it is just me. The only was for a dr or anyone to get my number would be for me to call them in advance, but I don't know who to call.

 

[scout86]

Tough situation! Someone is supplying the oxygen, I suppose they'll be the ones to find her dead and then call law enforcement. (Sorry if that sounds too harsh!) The county would then probably take over and locate you or deal with and through your uncle.
If I was in your situation, I'd stay out of until or unless someone tracked me down. She sounds like she knows what she wants, what she wants is contrary to her own best interests, but she's not likely to quietly cooperate. That sounds like a recipe for a bad deal. She's not likely to want or appreciate your help. I can see where you might feel some kind of responsibility. When my mother was dying, she had my brother and neither of them wanted me involved. If he hadn't been in the picture, up suppose I'd have done what was necessary, while trying to stay out of her way as much as possible.

You know, you need to look out for yourself, but do what you feel is right too. I wouldn't expect much from her other than trouble. Too bad things have to be this way!

 

[joeylittle]

yeah, it is just me. The only was for a dr or anyone to get my number would be for me to call them in advance, but I don't know who to call.

If you want them to know to call you, then I would recommend calling in a welfare check. Let them know the situation and that you are next of kin.

From what you are writing, it sounds like it might ease your mind, just to have that piece taken care of.