Childhood The narc sperm donor tries to force contact?

[XXbabydollXX]

I'm 17 and have nothing to do with the sperm donor. He sexually abused me as s kid and emotionally abused me through visitation as a young teen. ( sperm donor divorced my mom) this week he and his narc shitbag girlfriend went to court to get custody of my siblings. The shit bag looked at my mother and said "one shot" ( he tried to kill my mom when I was a kid he had all his weapons taken away because of such she has a restraining order against the pos). My siblings spew his bs on the daily about our mom (lies). When I was around them I was always the black sheep while one of my siblings was a golden child while the other is a lost child. The golden child is a know it all ( wants to go to school for engineering while want to be an actor)." My sibling are now called by the pos at times when my mom is driving just to keep control over the golden child. I'm tired of the bs.

 

[Klo]

Hang in there with no contact / grey rock, it's so worth it and sounds like you are doing really great. Sometimes there is also even hope for the golden child, they are just desperate and misguided and just want to be loved, some of them break free later in life, my brother did (mostly).

 

[Deleted member 33052]

It's good to see you posting, BBDXX! You're caught up in some really ugly stuff right now. Here's a lesson I learned way too late in life: You can't save your siblings and you can't save your mom. You can only save yourself.

I was the black sheep, too, and that, I think, is what gave me the strength to succeed in life. My spoiled siblings were never able to rise above the shit pile they were entrenched in. So, as lousy as it feels, being the outcast is the best position to be in when your family is as dysfunctional as yours is.

You didn't mention the ages of your siblings or how your mom is handling the custody battle. I hope you can keep us posted. (((BBdxx)))

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I was the black sheep, too, and that, I think, is what gave me the strength to succeed in life. My spoiled siblings were never able to rise above the shit pile they were entrenched in. So, as lousy as it feels, being the outcast is the best position to be in when your family is as dysfunctional as yours is.

I could not agree with this more. If I could like it a thousand times I would. This is a really true thing that occurs, it happened pretty much the same way as @Mal Content said. I have never seen it in this light before so clearly before and it is ringing so true.

I hope that you will be able to hang onto the fact that you are so worth fighting for.:hug: